Paul Janka Real Man Conference 2010

Paul Janka Real Man Conference 2010

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Pam thank you I also want to say this is heavy and I want to say thank you to David and Alex yard for helping organizers and I was thinking that I'll see how my energy is but I was thinking that I kind of wanted to sit down and do this classroom style but I found i held a very good seminar in New York and the International seminar and it we used it to make a product and I found that what can happen a lot of times is people go
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and they listen to speakers and at the time it's like oh wow that was cool you know he was fun people are funny people are charming people are charismatic I'm all of those things the thing is the conference ends and you ask the guy like what did you learn and he's like talk to a girl or something like that so the real issue is what do we take away from this right you all are gonna get in your cars or on the trains tomorrow and drive away and the reason you're here is you probably let's be honest you want to more women I mean basically and you
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also want to improve your confidence you want to improve your communication you want to improve all these elements that we talked about in the beginning of the opening so I'm gonna try this a little differently I'm gonna try and sit for a little bit because I get excited when I walk and maybe get my blood and I'm gonna host this a little bit classroom style so I want to encourage people to raise their hand if I say something that you don't understand or you feel it's confusing or needs more clarity and I also know that English isn't the first
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language of everybody in this room I'll stop what I'm saying this is basically for you because I know this stuff and you know I've done my thing so this is basically as a teacher and a coach to communicate what works to you guys out there so I'm here for you so stop me at any time questions in it at the end we'll do a little bit and of course you know in the breaks and stuff so thank you PIM thank you David thank you Alex I also want to say the other speakers are really good I learned quite a bit actually and they're all they're
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all experts in their respective fields right so we can kind of listen and I don't claim to be an authority on things certainly like I'm decent in bed but I'm nowhere near the master that Owen and his friend are it's alright so you know I've learned a lot in the opening a few hours of this conversation so let me let me look at my notes can everyone see what that says up there do you know your role let's see this really quickly all right I'm gonna ask you two
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simple questions here the first one is how many guys are here this is on look there's one girl in the room I think there's some in the back how many guys are here because they want to learn how to screw more women just put it up come on a couple guy with the girlfriends like alright that's that's how I got into this business basically not because I wanted to screw a lot of women but because I was screwing a lot of women and guys were curious they wanted to know how that worked and then I have something really small here that's a little hard to see but we'll come back
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to it the second question to you is anyone out there know why we're called pickup artists why is it called pickup art and not a science all right you can do it everywhere okay there's no predefined rules maybe everyone does it their own way maybe everyone has tactics everyone's an artist it's like a painter right no two painters paint the same way and what with the show of hands what kind of artists are pickup pickup
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artists social artists what do we call that I'll give you a hint Hollywood very good actors all of us who are pickup bars who are good at media and sleeping with a lot of women or actors of a sort and you'll see how this all ties in what do actors do what's their main thing that they do they play a role all right and I'm gonna write one thing on the board
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I learned having having given speeches in common it's very easy to throw a lot of stuff your way but I want to I want to write one thing and this is basically the whole thing I'm gonna talk about for an hour is gonna come out of here and do this and I'll turn it around Mullen see if I can spell right although stare with me if I could whistle I would whistle but I can't whistle hold on uh all right now I'm gonna spill all these markers when I turn this thing around hmm ah this is supposed to be dramatic
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for the semi you can believe it this thing weighs a lot more than it looks like all right can everyone see that all right so I'm actually if I wanted to be lets see your success in life and women who determined by how well you play your role all right so my whole talk is gonna be about roles right and I could have added they're also how how well you interpret other people's role this young female was playing a certain part up here today and
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the way she's dressed and the way she's groomed okay so she's supposed to but that's not our whole that's not our whole reality and then we got a couple in the back there and all of us here you're here as students I'm here as a teacher role we're all playing roles what I found what I found is that men's number one problem with women is that they don't understand their role and they try to they tried to be all things there they tried like we were talking earlier we were listening earlier about
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being a nice guy so they but they try to bring all their characteristics to bear on the interaction but really she's gonna respond to you based on exactly what kind of role you have and the more defined you are and we'll get into how important this is not only in pickup but in sex and relationships the finer points you can put on your wall the more effective your gonna be with getting what you want from her let me tell you a bit about myself because this is a foreign audience and I'm well known fairly well known in the States but not necessarily here I'm 34 I'm and a normal
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guy I've had a series of long-term relationships about six or seven I'm currently have a serious girlfriend who's English and in between those periods though I managed to a lot of women good-looking women that got people's attention and I've had sex with over 200 plus women and that's just intercourse I mean so and this is in between serious relationship so like when I'm a free agent I'm pretty effective and my techniques and I'm not actually going to spend a lot of time talking specific pacifica specifically
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about how to do that I've exhausted that if you want to do that you can go to my website or you can read my books and yeah that would give you like that will I guarantee we have like a get laid guarantee I mean I will teach you how to get sex but I I can't do a conference if I'm rehashing old material I have to like I have to do something fresh so I spent some time thinking before the conference in New York a few months ago and and leading up to it like what what is really what is really the one thing that guys don't get right and that and the thing is they don't know how to be
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basically they don't they don't know their role in the sexual interaction and and you'll see how powerful it is when you do know your role I'll give you some examples so I was a natural and I ran in 2005 I wrote something called getting laid in NYC that God basically debunked a lot of myths about what you supposed to you know we say oh you mean a girl you're nice to her you're supposed to respond don't think we need to respect all women actually to go against a little bit about the Mandate of the thing I mean you don't want to break the law and stuff but you can be cocky in a bit of a jerk - I mean that turns a girl
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on also so the but we have this like for at least in States this formulaic thing like you're a nice guy but the thought oh you're friendly then I'm thank you for dinner then we treat the girl nice and this and this and this and then you end up a lot of guys end up with nothing there with no sex there are the money that at a time the horny they're frustrated so I wrote something in 2005 because I would see all these guys and as a god they're not getting it so I wrote something and become his huge success just as a joke there's only 17 pages it wasn't it was self-published and then after that I was invited on national TV and I was written up in
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magazines and I got a business partner so we built a global business out of this but that's how it kind of started and now I lived in New York and I travel internationally at times that I'm a dating coach and in sex coach um and also let me just say this - a lot of stuff I know isn't just myself I have a buddy who's my age he's had sex with almost 400 girls so and he's not even good-looking guy is that like a schlub he dresses pathetically and he's like he's doing nothing with his life really sometimes those guys score the most girls actually cuz they have the time we need a lot of
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time that's so it goes back to what the guy said like if you really get into this business you'll see like direct is bad because it cuts out all the BS so what I'm gonna teach you and talked about comes out not just a my own experience but sharing methods and ideas with some very successful the guys who have a lot of success with women um so and I also want to say this list seems for talking at the break there seems to be all levels of guys here there's like some very sweet shy guys that I actually David was saying I didn't kiss a girl
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there was thirty three or something like that so we probably have some similar guys like that in the audience all the way to some like quasi rock stars who are like Terrence or Trojans and Durex condoms like it's going on style so we have we probably have the range here so I'm gonna this this will apply to all you guys out there not just beginners and not just experts um so let me tell you a story decide to tell you how effective this is when you get when you start it ties into the first speaker to about how you can you can women are the
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funny thing is women are extremely they're very intuitive but they'll let if they're if you play it right they'll let you push things so fast so quickly so fast like like in so sexual so fast I I was in New York talking to like I came up talking it but with a buddy but he fell out like he got blown out or whatever buzz tall blonde girl and a girl that looked just like Britney Spears clearly like very confident body language owning the place like guys were into it and I went up and I wasn't even hustling really I was just in a screw around mood and I started
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talking to her and immediately I got the vibe less than five minutes after four minutes after talking I had my hand in her skirt feeling or from behind and the reason I tell you that he's not to brag but if you know what your role is going into an interaction you can have your hand you can have your hand inside a girl in like three minutes forget you or kiss her within 30 seconds I just did I say that because it'll blow expectations out of the water for some of you guys out there like is that possible I got a doll no you have to communicate very clearly who you are in
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her life and who she is look we're all well-rounded people a lot of facets but when you're interacting with a woman you need to hone that down to a very sharp edge so she knows how to play her role it a lot of the problem guys have is they're too blunt they try to be like the brother and the provider and the sex object I hope I also may we iterate stuff because from my experience having I gave you some of my stats this is the single biggest hurdle for guys and everything flows
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downstream from here so they'll try and be the brother and the provider and the nice guy and they're all so horny and this and that and what when you come that blunt to a girl what does she do she blunts you out to she becomes the sister and the sweetheart and a nice girl and the Madonna and maybe the and all this kind of stuff but you don't meet point to point like like a like a horny guy and a sex sexy girl sex object to sex off you don't do that because you're not focused enough because your role isn't defined so we're gonna talk
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about a bit but when you have a very defined role you can move very quickly into a woman's sexual space like ridiculously quickly I mean within like three or four minutes so and I'm you know like if not full sex like so it's possible let me let me see what I have here moves you okay this is a I almost wrote this here but I wanted to keep it very simple and I'm sure you guys have probably read the literature out there and blah blah blah that everything hints at this but this is probably the most
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concise way to say it that I've heard when you're interacting with the woman you're either you're never stationary you're only doing one of two things you're moving closer to sex are you moving farther away every decision you make and every minute that elapses when you're spending time with a woman is either bringing you closer to having sex sir or farther away it's like the analogy is a boat if a boat with the full sail up is sitting on the ocean it's not just gonna stay stationary it'll be drifted and if you don't steer it you're gonna smash into the rocks so
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a lot of guys don't know any everything ties into this leadership taking charge driving in or what do you ever you want to call it if you are not moving the interaction towards sex then it's probably moving away from it and she's putting you in a different category so keep that in mind let me tell you another story oh thank you man that's really sweet or proper here with glasses no bottle sweetie thank you if
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you and I'll tell story in a second but if you really we saw the hands in the beginning like who wants to have more sex as women if you really want to have more sex with women you need to know your role and when you have a role you're goal-oriented right like an actor that's why started with talking about a pickup artist as an actor when you're acting they usually tell you what's your motivation like I'm feeling an actor the director might say you're but your brother betrayed you by sleeping with your wife so that's what motivates you in the scene go in there so you know and your goal is to kill your brother so so
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your role precipitates your goal I hope that's clear to people if you have a well-defined role you know where you're going so or if you know where you're going you can define your role so having sex as the outcome allows you to be in in your role and also to make decisions at every instance because women and I write extensively about this but the bottom line is women much rather have a long window to evaluate you as a sexual partner where guys can't it's happened to me many many many times like a super
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eligible guy can get DQ'd on one minor thing actually they did a study that the other guys do like this they did a study of men and women and they they asked they asked the guys what were the hundreds and hundreds guy what were the reasons that you didn't go on a second date with the girl and there were only three through the whole group she wasn't cute enough we would she wasn't interested interesting enough or she wasn't interesting I can't even remember the third one but there were only three like guys disqualified for a very limited set
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of real reasons women when they surveyed them had 300 reasons why they disqualify guy he didn't get he didn't stand up when I came and sat at the table he ordered tap water instead of a bottled water at the table so I figured he's not going to treat well in the future doesn't it so the point is that women know you're laughing because you know it's light so the point is that women have a very very nuanced set of criteria that they apply to a guy before they're gonna offer them some self sexually and to gather that much information most women who are sober and
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most women will want to extend that window of observation so there no no rush to sleep with you really like if they're good if they're attracted and they're interested they don't need to sleep with you today they can wait three weeks because you have your whole life though have sex together so what difference is that's a female mentality but a guy who's horny he wants it right now or visually stimulated you want to do it so the point of that is that that women are usually going to try and deflect your your your attempt is to seduce her quickly and guys who have a
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lot of sex and the truth is it's like a handful of guy not used to say that five percent of the single guys sleep with ninety five percent of the girls is that that's how I was in New York like my buddy and I we basically had monopoly on everything about 57th Street because we and we actually would date to say sometimes we catch the same girl like he'd find her like six months later like catch-and-release than he would have were so the the point is like women are gonna try and deflect and if you if you're goal oriented and you and you're playing your role you're kant's at every juncture when there's a decision to make
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to be made you'll reevaluate like is this or is this going to lead to the bedroom is this a is this a opportunity for me to spend money or is this going to lead to sex is this gonna waste time and then we can't do anything until tomorrow maybe or is this gonna happen now so you constantly the guys you know the guys you have a lot of sex are constantly managing the process it's like a sport it's like what's happening ii ii ii ii ii and a girl will never make it easy for you i mean the boy obviously the iron is you have a girlfriend and she wants to have sex all the time so it's a whole different thing but until you've broken
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that until you've broken her in so to speak until that's happened you're gonna she's gonna constantly say no no let's give it time as good not just verbally but in terms of her planning and all that and if you don't have a very sharp point and know where you're going and say no redirect redirect redirect you're gonna you're gonna end up being one of these guys and you probably have if you're sitting here I've been that guy who's like spending money and time and resources not driving the interaction force the next time you're with the woman not a friend but a
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woman you find sexually attractive come on and you want to sleep with constantly ask yourself like in this moment what am i doing to advance the sexual thing and probably a lot of us in here have spent time minutes hours like doing nothing just hanging out so it's uh it's the kind of thing where not you know you can start hanging out I'm sure people have been in the situation you have a date at 9:00 or hang out a nine and income 11 p.m. he made no additional progress you're no closer to sleeping with this girl well as a hustler comes in and he's booms got it he has a hand up her skirt
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like 20 20 minutes so it's like you have to know what your role is and how and what your goal is um let me tell you story I was in New York a while ago and this girl I had known a while she flew in from Chicago with three girlfriends and I had a couple buddies I was entertaining them and we all met up and there was sexual chemistry and I had fooled around with this girl before the mine and they we had met at this restaurant for drinks and we were moving so this is a classic thing and this
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white groups are so difficult all three of us all six of us came out and it's like alright now what next right a leader has to emerge to say we're gonna do this and I can tell a funny story that someone in this room well but the we walked out a thing and we all standing there and these girls wanted to go to a strip club okay which sounds like it's a it's a good idea and most guys like oh yeah but no one you're not gonna get laid in a strip club hold on well you will do is spend a lot of money and they'll get drunk and they'll get tired and then the night all
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calm they'll be gone probably such a good time I'm let's get together tomorrow you know and then they'll go so she and the other guys like yeah let's go and obviously we're gonna pay because were the guys and they and I said no absolutely not and I I put my foot down and I said let's go back to my place and we'll figure it out keeping a vague and I if you want to get into the technical spot of how to do this we can talk after and you can read my stuff I mean I get into excruciating detail back exactly what to do a moment a moment it's like watching it you know the World Cup played by like what's happened but that's not what
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I wanna talk about today and um she I said no we're not gonna do that we're gonna go to my place and have a drink and figure it out and what happened was we broke in separate cabs and I got a on the way going down to my house because I I knew how to handle the interaction and I knew what I wanted out of it and I didn't want to go in public to a strip club pay money and have this like be teased all night I wanted like results and so because I'm this I was decisive in that in that moment and I knew my role and I was sexually
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interested in this girl and I wanted a certain outcome I was able to even five other people I was able to totally steer the agenda and you want to talk about confidence and leadership that's what it is it's knowing that's why this ties in so fundamentally it's knowing exactly who you are and what your role is in a given situation so that you can execute okay and you thought you I mean it's not just here it's in business or leaders world speakers whatever it doesn't get any good to stand up here you know it's it also ties them with clarity if you know what your role is you know how to
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communicate it clearly so that's it let me see what this says isolates and it takes it cold no isolated seat oh yeah I was gonna talk a little bit about yeah I was gonna talk a little bit about how to how to actually have sex but we can we can come back to this um so in turn I mean setting up two things so let me move on a little bit when I was talking out with that Britney Spears type of
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girl right when you have when you when you're inhabiting a role as an actor okay I'm sure there's some shy guys in here or guys like they that's not the first time I've done that by the way like I've been extremely sexually bold and you know I have I gotten slap they're probably gotten slept I mean I'm pretty quick to like if it you know for girls I gave but it's you know it's cat-and-mouse I have fun with them but and I've definitely pushed up as our first speaker said she has a she has a comfort band so to speak how he bent it
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like that push up against that like we're the man right in the old days I remember when I was on dr. Phylis I'm not being cavemen guys have been puss if I dab it I mean basically you should know what the law is and you ship your horny push up against the law don't don't I mean don't rape the girl and don't just go crazy but you have a lot a lot of guys don't take the shot and then the guys who do take the shot are the one who sleep with all the attractive women and the other guys are angry like women will take a lot more pushing and a lot more a lot more bull behavior than then probably most of the men in this room
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realize and like I said that's not the first time that I very quickly transition as she knows her body she knows that it feels like she's made a decision in the first 60 seconds if she wants her hands your hands on her and if you push that that's what turns a girl on right we're animals so and in the old days before our civil society before anything like this it was caveman style I just grabbed the girls I'm not advocating that but I think this audience could benefit from being a little bit more assertive in terms of stuff and so the question is why extend
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your behave how do roles allow you to extend your behavior outside the comfort zone because you don't have it's not you you're just playing a role and that's a good way to kick-start it in other words let me give you an example you're at a bar or club or something there's a hot girl with a miniskirt and you're thinking you walk in and it's a guy look at that ass it's like peaches sitting up the fabric falls over too little so it's away from the leg you know at all you guys know intima nice like like little goose bumps on her lace so she's a little chilly into beautiful high heels and she's leaning forward and just like oh oh why you really wanted you don't
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want to talk to her till you just want to grab it right that's what most guys want to do well you can't do that but what you can do is you can get into a role where you realize like you're that guy you're that that like hustler who's gonna go up and take shots that are outrageous and see what happens so you can you can just walk up to her and be like hey what's up did I understand you no too close to her but you know you've kind of boxed in it's the bar and she feels your presence and she's an N and we can demonstrate this later we don't need to and and she she gets turned on
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and you can be like you can start rubbing here a little bit and suggestively and then with your knee on her leg and like goat you'd be surprised and I that's maybe an assignment for over the next I was gonna save tonight but we're gonna call this guy's assaulting women knocking I don't want to be responsible but over the next couple weeks to scale up what you feel comfortable like like 200 percent because I guarantee you you're not taking full advantage of these women and believing they can handle themselves a hot girl has been put in so many positions where guys are assertive that she knows exactly how to step away to
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deflect verbally physically I wouldn't worry about it and so you go up they start tightening then you can start teasing and you know you asked if she's wearing underwear and feel here's a lot of girls don't you know and you feel there's no band which turns you on right cuz he's not wearing underwear and her skirts only and you can play and the reason I'm saying that is in that that's not really you may be but you're playing the role of that hustler so just abdicate people know what that means abdicate responsibility in other words say you know what
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I'm Jeremy Jeremy wouldn't do that but tonight I'm playing a role as Christian and Christians a hustler who a lot of girls so he would do that so allow yourself to get into a role and to go and be more in it asserted both physically and verbally with the girl and and stretch your comfort zone and don't take responsibility for it because you're just play-acting and what will happen is you'll be you'll be like oh my god she's letting me do this like I still do it but every time I reach behind a girl and go into her panties after I've talked to her for like three
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minutes and by the way this girl was having love this too this turns girls on so much she was having a conversation with her friend and so the friend didn't know that I was feeling her up but she knew and so it's a little dirty secret right and and and and she didn't stop me and that's a very exciting moment when you crossed that line like past the waistband into but underneath and you're like oh my god this girl obviously she can feel it is lighting me feel her up in public how exciting is that but you can only get there if you if you play the role of that guy and a lot of us in here to say oh that's not me that's not me well I'm saying as
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an exercise I give you permission to go out and do that okay and you get any come back and send them my way so gotta wrote these notes these a these are the terrible way to write know it says too many words on this page you have let me explain a little bit more if it's not 100% clear and feel free to raise your hand if you have any questions that you think like oh my god this is crazy do you really mean this in terms of how how roles work you know why you can take an idiot and you can put
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him on a factory floor on a assembly line process and he can just go like that all day long stamping out dyes or something like that and he doesn't need a lot of education he doesn't need to think for himself why is that possible why can a guy do that without you can take a guy who hardly has a work functional IQ and you can do that does anyone know repetitive and non complexion is very narrowly defined in other words he knows his role is that guy who pulls like that so it's a very
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easy arrangement the machine is there and he just goes he doesn't think about other things he's supposed to be he just so also let me give you another analogy like a chef who's making an omelet like he needs certain tools but he knows his purpose is to make a decent omelet and he has a pan and he has and he's not thinking about like his past or his relationship with his mother or he has to get gas in the car like this or that or that he's just focused on his role as a chef in that moment and if he's really focused he'll make a good omelet so the
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point is like if if your role is well defined and you know what you want to do you want it your outcome now of course this applies to like girls right but if you have that mentality you can make a perfect omelet and you can you can pull the lever repeatedly what happens to most men and a lot of from what I'm not from the pickup community so I haven't read very much of it but a lot some of what I see is that they don't they don't hone down on this they don't say listen the object is more to animals she's a female part of the animal I'm male you think put my sperm in her and there's a
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certain dance we need to do what how do I do that they don't get that that that basic but really it is that basic and if you have if you know that it'll get a lot of the out of the way it's a very clear path oh this uh a friends join me and joined us today and that I remember we were in Luxembourg together and we went out to dinner with these two attractive women I had just met my girl and he had been dating this one for a while and we we all had dinner and we piled in the car and I wanted to nail his friend right the girlfriend and we found the car and
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then it's always at with groups that transitions like what's the next step where do we go now and we drove a little and we went to drop the one girl off and it was that moment either I go up with her or she leaves the car I mean I've seen I'm old enough and I've done this enough I know how all the circumstances I know how all the what all the outcomes are or I say I'm a nice guy and I'm like oh okay next time and she gets out and goes up I never see her naked or and we drive away and then I talked to the couple and I get a good night's sleep
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and you know I can do that when I'm 60 so but basically she started get out and I said no I'm coming up with you wait a minute and she didn't even bite me up I hardly knew this girl but I knew if I didn't make a bold action right there this is talking about at every moment you're either moving away from getting late or moving towards getting late and I said I knew if I don't if I don't exit the car and go up into her apartment with her I have no chance I have no access to her vagina okay that's very basic so um and she was like and women was Believe It or Not women responsible
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why do five percent of the guy's 95% of the because the guys put their hand up their crotch in a bull crowded bar while she's talking her best friend she leat pushes into it and it turns her on that's the guy she wants to not the guy who's wafting around and and she doesn't know is this guy my friend or does he want to screw me we did those exercises right with like compliant uh was it complete it was no no congruence so when you're bald you signal something to a woman so and I said no I'm coming out with you're gonna go up and they
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drove off and I went up and and and I fought like hell but she wouldn't let me I got her naked but she wouldn't let me and I her in New York a few months later but all right so you understand a bit of how important roles are i when it porn was mentioned here a little bit then I don't know why in the earlier thing I guess and some of you had came up to me at the break and talked about I was on some very major national television shows in New York and in the United States talking about
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not as graphic is this because this is men here and we're private but talking about basically man's need and right to behave normally and not as an earlier speaker said it's like it creeps women out when we hide this stuff down right it's look a fully mature sexually women like she can take care of herself I mean she knows the power she has in a room with her body and her attitude and she's had plenty of sexual experience like being a full sexual male around her it's not gonna you're not hurting anybody's feelings but you're gonna creep her out if you're really horny for her and
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you're covering it up and one of the things about roles is that today I think a lot of guys are confused about their roles and they're also ashamed about like having a natural they'll go secretly look at porn but when it comes to like having you know grabbing their balls and having a boner and what a they're like they hide it under a bush but it's you don't have to be this graphic with the girl and you're first talking to or you can and it's kind of funny and usually not that effective but the to own that and to feel that and then and then and then move forward with that and not feel ashamed about it
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because that shame will cause you to hesitate in the moment when they need to be bold and of course once you gets through the interaction and you're both naked after having sex everyone loves each other and it's all warm and fuzzy and sweet but it's that dance beforehand that very few men know how to get right so and also aside from how they feel about it men have shame attached and have and maybe are confused but they also don't have the tools until recently that's what this whole seduction community is it it's teaching us how to
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how to get the proper tools so that like we you know he'll the whole seminar in New York talking about like where first of all mindset but then where are the girls how do you identify which ones and then every step from saying hi defense that that the thoughts of the bedroom to on her back to taking the clothes off every elements of that so we now have the tools available to actually do this if we want to which you know five years ago or 10 years ago before this whole thing took off we didn't so alright and I want to tell a story I mean I've had plenty of failures
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with women too I'm talking some about the successes but like I learned through trial and error I mean I blew it with some ridiculously hot women that's cuz of me awful girl um what happens if you don't know your role and I'm sure many of you have been in that position what is it it's called indecision not knowing what to do in a given moment have you been there before or you got a chance with the girl and yeah oh there we go hands up hands up there are everyone's been indecisive
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with women you had it somehow you were able to get the attention this hot girl whether it was trying to get her number or she's out on a date with you or she's back at your place and you're not sure if she's or you're trying to go for the first kiss all of us in this room have had moments where we're undecided yes we'd like to but we don't know how and we're afraid we're afraid of ourselves we're afraid of how she'll respond so these moments of indecision when you don't know what to do they are all a product of not knowing your role let me say that again this is so fundamental when you have a moment of indecision
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with a woman or actually with anything in your life it's because you don't know your role in the moment hey J so if you know your role especially when it comes to sex is too you always know what to do you know what the next move is if she's wearing a clothes they need to come off if she's in public she needs to be in private if she's standing up she needs to be on her back all these things are basically like to move to this if she's if you don't know her you got to know her if she doesn't give you the phone number you got to get the phone number if if she's on the other end of it you need to arraign so you're
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in the same proximity so everything is very clear when you know what you want okay so you first have to ask yourself maybe for some of you guys this isn't it it's not about screwing a lot of chicks maybe and I'm going to touch a bit because I have a girlfriend now touch a bit about relationship stuff and we I think this is pretty standard knowledge but if you if you if you don't know what you're doing with the girl if you're indecisive she is gonna put you in one of several categories she's gonna make you the provider right if you're a decent guy
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and you come for yourself with a girl repeatedly she's gonna oh yeah well at the beginning I I didn't want to talk about too many things so I'm talking about how to achieve a full sexual result with a woman sex essentially oh okay good question good the question is how do you describe
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the role of a seducer and the answer is it's a guy who's every move is towards sex there's never a down period you know it's in football they play for 45 minutes then they take a half time and then there's 45 their goal their role is to put that little white ball in the net and they know it and then at the referee at the at the halftime when there's a break their goal is not to do that their goal is to to hydrate their body and sit and listen to the coach what I'm saying a seducer is someone who has he doesn't
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have a half time he plays all 90 minutes straight and he has one goal and that's to get inside the girl basically if you don't if you're indecisive and you don't and you don't know your role which a lot of us probably have lost that we don't know what would we like the girl but we don't know what the next step is yeah go ahead I can hear you okay which include sex right yeah okay you can the girl the girl will pace you
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so I would say push for it and she'll oftentimes if a girl I don't want to say anything too stereotypical but relationships can often come if the girl resists for three or four dates and she gives the reason women do that is that they women with high self esteem they want to showcase their personality they want to say here listen don't just go for the whole I have a whole whole life I want to show you I'm a great person because a guy gets very distracted so they stop it stop it and they get to
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showcase themselves for over three nights for example until the guy says wow this is a quality person I want to spend time with and then don't give sex up once they've shown you who they are but a lot of girls are give it up quickly they don't have a chance to show because the guys or if you're very good to get in there like so it doesn't they don't have a chance to show you how great they are and then after a guy has sex that's what he was after if he did if he thinks huh whatever I'm not that and I'm not that interested then that's how you can have like what you know us a string of one-night stand at listen I'm gonna get to relationships in a second
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foot well I'm saying a guy constantly presses but again there's a legal system there's a law you can't do certain things beyond it and she'll leave like like she can if your girl says I'm not coming home with you how are you gonna get her and I'm not going to the bathroom I'm not going to do that so I mean you can't isolate her so then that's it's over for that night so what I'm saying is you can press but she can pace it she can say yes I'm interested but not right now and often beautiful girls are very good at pacing so I wouldn't worry about they'll pace you in terms of if they're
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interested they'll let you push but I would say okay not now I need more time I need more time we have another question I thought I said oh yeah slowing it down like deciding when things will happen in a very simple schematic it's like when how kiss happens when they let you touch their brass when they'll get naked when they'll allow sex like a girl has some kind of timetable in her head you know so they'll in terms of when they're comfortable doing that now how they value the interaction so
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oftentimes guys who are a great boyfriend material have a hard time getting laid because the girlfriend the girl likes him and she doesn't want to ruin it by having sex too early so she'll hesitate at least in the states that's a case I have I have one friend who's very good-looking guy he's a medical doctor went to Harvard he's like a perfect well he has a girlfriend helmet he always had a hard time getting laid his girlfriend for love right away and said oh he's gonna be my husband I don't want to give it up too soon that's the problem so if you don't if you're indecisive what happens is the girl chooses okay
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and she's put you in a category she can put you in the category of you're the one who pays for her okay I'm sure you guys have been in that situation that where she says oh he's a nice guy he wants my attention and he's willing to pay she can put you in a category of like a hangout friend you go to the movies she can put you in a category of like talking on the phone someone at the break shared like were you just her girlfriend or she complains and it she's not sleeping it or she can put you in my leg flow so I'm gonna stand up in a second cuz the room is
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getting low energy but um she can she can put you in a role of of the guy she sleeps with and actually in Japan which is a very interesting country and I went there too with a hustler buddy of Mines it's very beautiful women very stylish hard to get laid in a way because of the language barrier but they have actually in Japan culturally they have names for things they have they have them they have guys who are who are movie boys driving driving boy food boy shopping
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boy and sex boy and one if you become a category of guy in Japan you have often a very hard time migrating to a different category because you you didn't make a bold move in the beginning and she put you into her own category and now you're the guy every time you go out she expects you to pay or she only calls you when she wants to see the latest movie or like when the clothes are fresh from from from the catwalk so if you're not if you're not bold and make a decision what you want your she's gonna choose and there's nothing worse than a girl choosing to be honest with this kind of stuff because were they men
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were supposed to lead yeah well is that a kind of hand or a camera okay okay so um let's see oh god I hate when I can't be late notes but let me tell you a story about indecision I was living in New York in about 2000 2004 and I was doing fine with the women but I still dropped the ball the time because I I didn't know what to do I basically didn't know my role and I I met this picture this girl working hard she was
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half brazilian half a town you can imagine my buddy when he met her he's like that's a screamer you just knew like insects she'd be like ah pulling hair smash and like hot-hot anyhow she was into me and she gave me her number and we met once and took a walk around the the Metropolitan Museum which was not a great move because it was like daytime and I I think I put my arm around her but I didn't go in for the kiss already it's like I'm not a bold guy already I'm she liked me and I'm already low level unfortunately guys women respond to guys who him I
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hate to tell you that but I was already uh demoted and then I asked her out on a date one I used to take girls to dinner and I got her she lived near me - thing we went she came back to my house at like 6:30 and she sat on the couch and she said so what do you want to do which is like a test she didn't even know it was a test but it's a test and in retrospect I should have stood her up spinned around or giving a hug kissed her and bring her into the bedroom so I want to show you something start making out with Eve we didn't have sex at least
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get it hot right instead I said let's go for dinner and we went we drove all the way downtown we had dinner and meanwhile at dinner she's like touching her breasts and she's saying she was she had great ass and like maybe be cooked it and she was like you know I've always wanted bigger breasts my mom says there she's telling me this they're fine she's trying to make like section and I'm eating this me this big pasta meal about how by the end of it I was like so full and tired and I was like yeah and anyhow we got in a cab and we drove back uptown and I we pulled up in a place and I was like all right there was no sexual vibe
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it was like - dude like I was tired there was no there was no energy left and that said she's like god I never actually just became Facebook friends with her now she's 6 years older and it's a girlfriend so it's like the whole different dynamic but the it never happened after that because I didn't know what I was doing I didn't know my role is to this hot sexy girl and then go eat all right work I have a old mentor his name's Dominic he's an ex-mob stirrer he's about 70 and he says no I was younger he says no no you them and then you go eat you don't eat in the
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recession wait you've got your work up an appetite so again that gets to know in your role let's see hold on okay the other the other cool thing about roles and you know we're gonna get to women in a second how women play roles is that is that you can you can play into their fancy okay I don't care what type of girl she is all girls have had a handful
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of fantasies they've had rape fantasies they've had threesome fantasies they've had fantasies with older men they've had so almost every girl has a hole but if she's gonna act out on that or be the bad girl for one night you have to play that role that locks right into her fantasy and so by developing developing this edge in the side of yourself you'll be that guy that women take a chance with and have the one-night stand with if you want to play the field like that or do crazy stuff or give you a in the club that they've never done
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before cuz your your your role for them from their perspective is that dude for that night and if you're into that that's great because you can act out that fantasy with them um one other thing about roles like look how I'm dressed right I have white shoes on I have a green corridor as I'm wearing sunglasses which is some people think it's rude maybe have a hat on I'm not shaving like this is all role right I have a lot of other sides I don't hang out with my parents like this necessarily mom we get those sunglasses off like it's so but for the purpose of pick up and
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demonstrating because I'm I'm doing what I want and I'm doing what I love so I'm able to be in a certain role so my point is that I've seen how people dress here and it's I'm not that impressed I hate to say it's like I mean in New York is a fashion capital but you want it you know it you can get somewhere you can get your role somewhat advanced by by dress room attitude in the seduction community they call it peacocking I don't love that term with like big hats and all this here like cast you know canes
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and pendulums necessarily but you can use your wardrobe to to to stimulate her imagination and get you into character when you go out so you can act out of your comfort zone you can do things that you wouldn't normally do like you know the nice Joe who's at home family man has a dog as a good job what - you know studied university is gonna be a doctor for example maybe he's not the badass playboy he's gonna some chick you know it's a nightclub but if you want to do that you can get into the role and
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act it out yeah yeah yeah sure I mean women respond of course at different types of women responding different stuff but as long as you stand out and the guy here had a cool jacket with flowers on it like anything that you do that that's someone just said what he said he says differentiate yourself in a positive way from other men and women will take notice now it just gets you an opener I liked it that gives you some curiosity you got to work it but yeah clothes can help so keep in mind is your
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role you're obviously spent money and you spend time out of your schedule you drove here etc like this is important to you so spending some time thinking about like being that guy and what it requires in terms of grooming and clothes and attitude is is is worth your while I talked about about women's fantasies threesomes fast sex anonymous sex women want this kind of stuff but they only want it with a certain character they're not gonna want to do it with someone who reminds them of their brother or like the safe they don't want to they're not gonna do that with a safe guy they do
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that with the dangerous guy who's not boyfriend material why because if they have if they have dirty sex in a bathroom for example or like really quickly they can do it with it with a not safe guy because they know it's never going to become a relationship so that's that relationship they can walk away from if they like a guy if he's a good guy they're not gonna try it because it could damage the pot I talk about the second go damage the possibility of relationship let's see and before I get on to to wit roles for women because I think this is and I'm
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gonna talk about mate selection when you're looking for a girlfriend what to look for I want to say two things that I'm kind of just shoehorn shoehorning these in here but since we're talking about roles and being real men the first thing is here has fear okay I have fear we all have fear but the you you need to tackle the thing you fear the most first if you start tackling things you fear the most at the front life gets easier there's a there's a famous saying oh if it's Buddhist or what but they say
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do the easy thing perpetuate the hard life do the hard thing arrive at the easy life so always do the hard the hardest thing first and the thing you fear the most and I also people talk about fear like I'm going to jump out of a plane I'm gonna bungee jump this now that's not what really people fear the thing that people fear the most are one-on-one interactions with people that are gonna get uncomfortable or or there's a lot of unknown that's really what people a phone call they don't want to make a hot girl they have to approach saying something disappointing to their parents calling the bank and saying I
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don't have the money for my house the mortgage these are what we fear the interactions with other people so keep that in mind and if ties in the conference I wanted to say this like if you work on your fears if maybe the list of all your fears especially as they relate to people and just start working through those by just walking through the fear I'm doing it and may you'll see that there's not really and then it all relates to talking to hot girls because they're just people to and another thing I want to say I just a little anecdote a
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guy came and - a mentor and he said he said listen but I'm uh I'm tired of my wife I don't care I don't love her anymore I've kind of lost interest in her and the guy said the mentor said to him he said start acting in a loving way towards her and the love will return and I found that to be the case - like when we get into relationships if you act in a caring way toward someone and invest in them the mind is a funny thing the mind will start to value that thing so and you'll see cuz a downside of pickup is you
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become very good with women it's hard to get into a relationship because you're passing up all this right it's like what it's hard for one girl to compete that's why rock stars and musicians it's difficult when they're on the road because the girl just one girl no matter if she puts a donkey or brass it does whatever she can't compete with all the hundreds of groupies so it's this is a downside to pickup and I'll talk a little bit about we have time so if you want no no I'm nothing if you do you want it well let's do this because the energy is low in the room let's all stand up I love it now
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let's just stretch for one second you can turn around if you want to whatever okay roll your neck let me see what I have are do I go too much time left okay so quarter past six oh so I want to
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talk for a second about we talked about the male role is pretty simple let's talk about women because obviously some of you guys maybe you're in relationships or you want to get in a relationship or and there's all types of women out there as we go out and the question is how do we make sense of it all and like are we gonna end up marrying the wrong girl or we're gonna date the wrong one is she gonna be a headache and I want to talk a little bit about how females can have it their own roles and to help you like from what from my perspective to help you make some choices and this is about mate
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selection choosing someone who's a good is compatible actually there are earlier speaker I had some interesting things to say like he's silly he likes a silly girl believe it or not I'm actually a silly guy and my girlfriend now is a really silly girl but but I like to like uptight hot girls and high heels from the office with little dresses so that we'll get this in a second it becomes it's an interesting thing so first the first type of girl that everyone knows is the friend okay and a friend is someone you don't have sexual
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interest with and if she actually disgusts you think of like being sexual with her and I just curious the guys in here have female friends yes or no do you know friends friend friends not relatives like girls that you hang out with platonically and like I don't know she says come over and watch Will & Grace or something like watching TV okay I'm just learning how to do it's kind of interesting but that I don't want anything out of them so it's a it's kind of I guess I want their company but that a friend
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is someone that you have no sexual interest and it's just nice to spend time with and the other thing is that there's no emotional risk there okay I'm actually gonna get at this see if I can make sense of this there's some pretty heavy stuff in here in a second about emotional stuff which is actually where I mean I I learned how to screw a lot of girls I mean I and i wrote a big book on it that's classic and that was my life for about seven years and it's fun definitely but I'm moving into a new chapter of my life or things it's a little heavier and more complicated I want kids and all the stuff so there's finding the right partner I'm gonna talk
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about a bit that now um but with a friend there's no emotional risk right she can't female friend can't really hurt us in a way she can't disappoint us she can't cheat on us and she can't deny a sex in the way that's frustrating so it's like friends are nice but you don't get any depth there in a way because you there's nothing at risk emotionally the other category there's only three categories in my mind the other category of women is just for sex and her behavior with these type of
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women her behavior and I'm curious in Europe it might be a little bit different in in the state so we definitely have this type in in New York they're very prevalent women that are really hot sex I mean every guy would be drooling over them like right out of the pages of maximum and FHM and all these things but their behavior is so irresponsible and difficult that you could never meet them as a partner because they would destroy you because then they don't keep their word they spend profit in a profligate manner they stay up all night maybe they're doing
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drugs all the time so what do you do with those type of women that are turn us on but they have no their behavior if you bring them on board your ship they're gonna sink the ship okay I don't know if you guys know this type of girl but they're oftentimes they're very hot okay so you got a problem you want to screw them but you don't want anything to do with them because they're dangerous basically and they're not sensible so and they interestingly it it's linked because a hot girl usually because she knows she's attractive and she can get to do that I
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got a guy that whatever clean up after her she she misbehaves okay and my book there's no account care how hot she is what you do within that situation you put yourself in environment where there's a lot of hot girls like in New York City or I don't for lens that way or London or Moscow or something and then you have very strong terms so that she her behavior is checked okay you never never know guessin just cuz the girls hot she can never release in my book she can never act out her behavior cannot be out of line I don't care of
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the ejector and gonna other ones so this is the type of girl whose behavior her behavior is not a condition of engaging in other words she has terrible behavior but he still want to have sex so you're not taking that into consideration and you must protect yourself against what your wasted time your wasted money health risks in terms of she may may or may not be honest with her sexual past and also with your focus these types of women can be very draining too if you're
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chasing them I don't know just maybe I hope I'm hitting a nerve here maybe not who in this room has chased a hot girl who was difficult and what it was sleep with her but you couldn't couldn't get it done and she was she was impossible she broke plans for example you made arrangements you made a residue spent some money or hotel and she said I can't do it okay thank you for admitting that I'm sure that's happened to many guys in this room but those type of women and and I think a lot of young guys make the
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mistake of choosing someone like that for a girlfriend okay because they think oh she's hot the sex is gonna be so great and she's she's on my arm and this and that's not and this girl proceeds to destroy this guy's life slowly but surely by making him give up his terms there's a there's a very famous thing that I talk about often and it says um if you actually aside from this if you take nothing else from what I'm saying this would be a it says a man is devastated when a relationship ends to the exact degree that he compromised his
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terms does anyone understand what that means but what does that mean yeah exactly right the girl is not a problem what we lose is we lose integrity because we gave something up that we cared about so my real I'm not talking about in a real relationship which I'll get to say that's different when you negotiate
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changes but when you're just trying to have sex you never want to do that it's always believe me I've turned away girls who weren't cooperative right in my front door ha ha girls but because they wanted me to give something of myself up that I didn't want to give up the sex isn't worth it ok you can spend 50 euros and get laid in Amsterdam I mean it's much better to turn her away because she's not gonna just take a piece of you she's gonna eat into you like a corrosion so you're exactly right about that so the young guys make that mistake often cuz they they she's a hot look or
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and they try to tame this type of girl you know I've tried to do it to like the nightclub girl the party girl the girl that every guys trying to sleep with and she plays just be careful with this type but also realize that you can have sex with her but don't in my opinion don't try and make her a girlfriend because you have to enjoy her in the context of her lifestyle a narcissistic ego driven girl like this and I've been a guy like that ok it's gonna be causing a lot of damage to you but and I'm not gonna do it here but I teach you how to sleep with these type of girls on your own
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terms and my other stuff because you can enjoy them physically without risking emotional and financial terrain and if anyone in this room is has had one-night stands or you know screwed a lot the way you can tell if you're feel emotionally safe with the girl is if you can fall asleep with her right after you've had sex if you if you sit and she's lying there with a new girl and you're you open your eyes and you're kind of like this and you like you don't want to fart in bed and you don't want to do these kind of things you're not comfortable
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then you don't feel emotionally safe and emotionally safe as a relationship which I'll get to in a second where you can can totally be yourself so one of the highlights of girls who are like this and that are just used for sex that they're not emotionally safe okay now let's talk about relationships in a relationship okay she has to I mean the truth is there are a lot of girls that are you know in the world there are plenty of girls that are sexually attractive enough above a threshold okay I don't know what however picky a guy is
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there's still thousands of girls that he'll screw so you want to choose girls that are above your your threshold that you find attractive but actually funny enough I mean I've slept with models and actresses and even like average girls it's not a lot of correlation to how hot it is in bed like some some totally normal girls are much hotter sexually than a tall model who's like self-conscious and like worried about stuff and you know so it's it actually the sex act is not correlated to how well good-looking a girl is but when it
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comes to relationships choose women that are meet your threshold looks wise but after that it's all character and what I found myself doing when I was swimming out in a sea of women is that I was I didn't feel that these women had strong character and I'm pretty demanding in my relationships in terms of expectations like like my girlfriend lives in England and I live in New York and we travel all over together we were we were in London for New Year's just in amsterdam she was in Corsica with me this summer like I have to have a woman that I could spend a lot like make plans drop a lot of
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money this and boom and meet like no problems no drama she doesn't cancel it's like we have to be on the same page in terms in with a lot of money and time at risk and and also fidelity because we're a part like that requires character because there's often when you make a commitment there's a lot of pressure to change and this and that so you want it you want to for a relationship you want to screen for character much more than for looks because character is first of all also women get you know they get old things start to sag right as they say I just
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was reading it's the cooking that cooking counts longer than last longer than kissing in other words in the long term it's really the character and if you're compatible not the looks so approach only women that you'd sleep with but above that if you're looking for a girlfriend screen for character and I'll tell you two two ways that I knew my current girlfriend was high character one is that I when I first met her on our first date I've tried to get in her pants I
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couldn't our second date I did get in I didn't sleep with her but I got her naked more less and I had told her a fake age it's a 29 or something and a fake name because at the time I couldn't go around New York with my name because all these girls recognized me and I was still sleeping with a lot of girls and when I use my real name because I was on all these TV shows I was getting blown out a lot so my buddy was like Jesus he was a street name and sigh so I told her Christian and we were in bad and she she first challenged me on my age he thought I was younger I'm 34 but she thought I was like 25 and I said actually no I'm
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I'm older and let me tell you something else my name is not is not Christian it's Paul let me explain and she flipped out understandably she had been very she's a quality girl she had made herself sexually vulnerable and I had lied to her and she withdrew and she's I have to leave here I've got to get out of here she'd be a very uncomfortable it's betrayal well she wanted to borrow she didn't have any money it was late at night in New York and it's she lived on it so I gave her 20 and I was very strict with money at the time I still AM but I gave her 20 bucks and I said listen I know you're pissed off at me or
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you don't trust me at all but this is a loan alone this 20 bucks is not a giveaway I want this money back and even if we don't see each other I was still and she was like totally creeped out but like okay and she left the building she we correspond to via text a couple days later and she said listen I'll meet you because I owe you the money but that said and we met and she made good on the money in my experience very few women have that skill in other words once they are emotionally angry most women don't honor their word I've had plenty plenty
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examples of women saying they're gonna do something and then they just up don't feel like it I feel a little creepy about and and then they just totally you could have spent a lot of money and time and everything making arrangements and they'll walk right away just because they don't feel like it that's a feminine quality men don't generally do that right we said we have our balls in our word we're gonna honor our word well the fact that she honored it and even though she didn't like me and she didn't trust me but she had said she would told me that when she says something she'd follow us through that's high character which means I can trust her and I can make plans that I can make
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decisions based on her word being steel it's an anchor all right when you screw a lot of hot chicks there's no anchors because they don't so yeah and the other the other example is we were having I used to blitz to share girls with buddies of mine like other players over there get an inventory and be like this girl loves to do it and we swap girls and the women in the back of God cream no no longer I I'm a nice monogamous guy now but I was with my current girlfriend
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at the time though she was just in in the early stages and my buddy came by to kind of say hi and check her out and he started being kind of very insulting in other words he said she was in bed with me and he stopped and he said God you yeah I do that and it's like when he's just very rude to her and she's young girl he's much older and very he's very experienced and she put up great in a very graceful way she'd have put up boundaries and didn't let him treat her that way like turned it I can't remember exactly what she said but she turned it right back at him and he looked like the
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but she was not even vindictive she was graceful about it and I saw that she could protect herself she had enough self-esteem to protect herself so I'm that Plus that we just enjoyed each other we laughed law in which she's a great girl and we had great sex but those type of few things about her character really set her apart from the dozens of girl I was screwing so and that allows me to have a functional relationship with a woman so I just wanted the guys out there who are looking for more than just sex you know approach girls that you find
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attractive and by the way in a relationship you know girls what I'm going to say basically a relationship sex turns out to be not so much about actually hold on they talk about this yeah it turns out to be a lot more about how you feel then then is the girl like the hottest thing on the block in other words you're like lying in bed after breakfast or like when you wake up and you're feeling happy and close you have an erection we just want to put it inside her and start having sex it's not
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as objective as the dating scene where you're hunting girls so it's a relationship at sex is often as very different than single sex and so good as long as it is if she meets your threshold for attractiveness you're gonna be okay screen for character to save a lot of problems and we're gonna tell another story but yes yes I gave
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her in South in marketing and selling we say reason why and I as people will believe a lot if you tell them why the reason why I said listen I betrayed your trust I don't expect you to you know stick around but the reason I did that is that I've been on a lot of I'm in a tough position because I want to feel maybe women feel I feel that they may be entitled to know all about my background but very few women can and Gail actually I get some girls who just want to used to get girls who would just call me to have sex because they see me on TV and
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they won but there a lot of women as soon as they found out that I slept with all these women and I've gonna they protect themselves they won't engage but and I didn't I felt that's not fair to me like I want to still be able to be to date freely so my so I have this background I have baggage and it I had to use a different name like you know like I said basically like Prince has a stage name or somebody's it's like an entertainer name when I'm out hustling and oftentimes these relationships don't go anywhere it's just sex but I came I saw that I liked you and I wanted to get
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honest and now we have this situation and she thought about it and then very slowly I didn't sleep with her actually for several more dates slowly but we we we that was an interesting sound can you duplicate that that came out of your mouth right so let me I know this is like classroom style and I'm kind of didactic here but instead of walking around I rather focus on this um let me also tell you about looks and my
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experience I used to like really trashy girls okay like mini skirts too much makeup they look like they just been sucking some guy's dick and okay just dirty trashy girl they turn me on because their sex was so and that it's a great book sperm wars by Robin Baker he talks about why loose women are appealing but there was something very I felt very attracted to like trashy women and not to say I don't anymore but I realized that there's it's the trashy girl you can only once or twice and then you get tired of her and it's like
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I'm at least me I don't want that around but a classy girl class and I'm talking about like Jackie Onassis maybe princess die maybe Marilyn Monroe these type of icons a woman with class remain sexually interesting for a long long time so part of my journey is to move away from trashy girls and kind of like my girlfriend now is very classy and I try and reinforce that behavior realize that classiness actually is and probably some
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of the older gentlemen in the audience I'll understand this more than young guys because you you know young guys and were raised on internet porn it's like just want to see the tits right away you'll see but there's something to a classy girl that you can keep going back to sexually or as you can burn out a trashy girl link after two pops man are driven by novelty we're very turned on by novelty like you got a strip club or any like playboy right we don't have the same issue every month every month they changed the girls because it's exciting to us because it we basically it's biologic we want to spread our seed to as many girls as possible so novelty
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means a new girl where we can spread our seed that's what our comes from so we're drawing to novelty and a girlfriend doesn't really have that and she also doesn't have her light on single girls have to like turned on meaning I'm available like look at me they dress provocatively a girlfriend doesn't need to do that because she has a guy by her side so I'm also to not see some hot this is the other consequence of pickup if you get good with women and you can pluck them and nail them so to speak you see you see you're with a girl and you want I used to not see girls outside the bedroom by the way because my buddy in
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New York he's he's my age he slept with 400 girls and are almost like 380 something he keeps track he won't leave the bedroom with the girl why because if he takes one girl out that he said sex with he feels totally inhibited to talk to the new girl so a hot one walks by and he feels restricted if he talked to her this one gets pissed off if he doesn't anything then he's like pissed off at this one for restricting him so he basically just has sex with them and then goes out as a lone ranger to get new ones well I'm not in that position right now and so I'm with my
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girlfriend and I see I noticed other girls and I compare in the cement which is not helpful and I have to realize like these women oftentimes are strutting their stuff because they're trying to attract male attention keep in mind girlfriends and wives or not so this is where the guys who are in relationships I'm thinking like is this right for me as it's not in it for pickup artists if you really hone your skill and I don't know how much time we have but I wrote the top 10 reasons to get out of it this was published on cliffs list which is I don't know if
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anyone here knows cliffs list but it's a big it's one of the original seduction posts in the US and I wrote this was a very popular thing or what the top ten reasons to get out of the game and it's a lot harder than you think like you're here to learn how to screw women and and be the man and go in and get the hot one you're gonna make it and all the stuff okay great when you get to that state you're gonna have a hard time putting it down it's a it's like I wouldn't say it's an addiction I don't wanna call that but like it's gonna be hard to focus on one
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girl when even if you care about her when you know you can have new ones relatively easy so just know that when you get into this if you flex if you get this muscle really strong it's gonna it's gonna be a challenge to transition to monogamy and as far as I can see I'm the only guys been able to do it like I was talking with one of our first speaker maybe there are other guys but a lot of them have weird situation my opinion it's like girlfriend's like bisexual and they're doing threesomes it's not like a I mean I want kind of like a their wife man monogamous you know five five I want a lot of kids actually ten
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kids and like that kind of model I don't want some alternative lifestyle so that transition is harder than you think for guys get good so let me let me let's see that okay couple couple of things that are most important in a relationship I found the most single most important thing about a woman and it relates to her character as again only approach women that you like to sleep with but is how she treats you the
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quality of how she treats you is the most important aspect of a woman a lot of guys get hung up on hot girls and they're willing to accept lousy treatment like and I have what is his like some guy might say to himself oh she's a ten and I'm only a five so she treats me pretty well for a ten well I don't think that's a good situation in my opinion like when you're in a relationship with a girl exclusive or anyone I'm anything that's more than just a bang it's it's fundamentally important how she treats you that's the
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number one thing and for me the qualities I look for are how does she handle disappointment or when I say no does she throw a tantrum is she a drama queen like you get her really some of these these hot chicks that used to getting everything in wanting to tell them no does two things it turns them on but also they can inter within a relationship they can throw a tantrum too so you have to someone who's mature enough to handle the word know when you set a boundary also how does how does a woman in your life listen to you you know you hope you've all been to these clubs or that goes like yeah huh you're
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chewing gum you like oh yeah sure and they're looking around for the next hot guy oh yeah okay cool and like that and they're not paying attention like for me it's very important that the girls like though that type of girl like the club girl or the little hottie impatient looking around she's multitasking she's like texting oh yeah sure yeah like listening is one of the most crucial things we do with another human being and for me a big task with the screen for a quality girl is like when she when she listens does she stop what she's doing is she
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looking at me does she does she hurry me along or does she patient for whatever I say and is she looking at me and not looking around like the quality this is very important the quality of how a woman listens will tell you a lot about her so and a lot of these hot you know think that the cat's meow type of girls are not good listeners so keep in mind that try and nail them but be careful about bringing them on as a partner and as I said earlier the the the the way to
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test for emotional safety is is how well you sleep next to a girl like can you fall asleep right away and if you don't if you feel like there's a little bit of a stranger in your bed which some of you guys will feel is your skills get good and you're having sex with a lot of women that's because you don't feel emotionally safe and I know it's not cool and sexy to talk about emotions and immense thing but the reality is like women aren't going to hurt us physically generally speaking unless you're Wayne Bobbit I don't know if you guys notice or they're and if you can learn some very specific techniques to protect
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yourself financially but women can hurt us emotionally by betrayal disappointment us liking them and and and then fading all these kind of things obsession obsessing about girls so these are all emotional risks and I'm almost done and I might just list those things if we want and then I'll take some questions yeah again this all ties into role because it's it's like what do what do I want well right now the way I'm looking at
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going yeah do those things I told you see how she be handled her word like spend some time to like if you can learn how to and I'll talk I used to be a cold-hearted bastard I mean part of the reason I was good at sniffing a lot of women as I was I was emotionally damaged myself and I'll talk a little bit about that like I was able to shut it off in women unfortunately women go crazy for a guy who's shut off because they're trying to get trying to access you emotionally and they'll give you sex to do that if you're shut off
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it's it's very powerful with women but I don't want to live my life that way and so you can have sex by being shut off but before you really invite a woman in and trust her you you want to test it you want to test that she keeps her word even when she's this angry at you and disappointed you want to see how she listens and you want to see how she responds when you tell her no and if she responds maturely in all those you've got a good girl in your hand and you
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also want to like I'm 34 my girlfriend's 22 I want a big family so my combination this talks about roles what is my goal I have kind of an idea of being a leader of my family a king of my castle kind of thing for me it's important that I have someone a very high character because I laugh I want to live I lead a very dynamic life I travel I make good money I have a lot of friends like I need someone who I can rely on like a flimsy girl is gonna break down underneath me pretty soon she's gonna have her it basically she's gonna have issues that cause her to just collapse because she
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want so I need a strong woman of high character and I want her young enough that she has a lot of childbearing years ahead 22 she can have a lot of kids and that's a hard combination to find attractive good sex like a lot of women become mature by the time to 35 but and they're young when they're still hot they can get what they want it's ego they don't develop that side so they're very their character is very weak and so it's hard to trust them so you have to have to find what you want out of the interaction relationship last thing here
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you know one reason why am I talking about emotions to one degree or another everyone in this room is emotionally damaged okay we we none of what none of us are perfect weather come from divorced parents parents die parents were abusive I don't know if the stuff is talked about in German culture or not but in the States we talk about stuff people everyone has emotional baggage okay and they've had loss and they fed grief and they've had betrayal and and and a lot of guys I know that are very good with women are the most up unfortunately because
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they've been emotionally damaged to a degree where they don't feel and when you don't feel you don't have approach anxiety you can come up and I can just put my hand in a girl's vagina like right like that and I don't have anything blocking me because I can do it really I don't have any voices or any hesitancy so I was when I was probably I've had a kind of a crazy past but when I I'm healthier today than I was a few years ago but a few years ago I was really effective with women as I get healthier and my heart opens up and I'm more than I'm nice like our last speaker
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and I'm generous and I invite you and I my ability to hustle girls drops a little bit so there's an there's an element of that I don't know if that resonates with anyone or if they've seen that and speak I mean this guy mister he's probably he's got his issues obviously right so but he it makes him good at what he does and I don't even know exactly all his stuff but it's like the point is I like what I've seen is real good hustlers often have an emotionally damaged side now we can heal through connection with
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a low if we're heterosexuals through the connection with a wonderful woman who's patient and we share with and we trust and we start to trust ourselves and trust her and build some of that back and that's kind of the journey I'm on you know Frank Sinatra has a song called the wee small hours of the morning you know Frank Sinatra they're people that I'm so a great crooner from the states and he has a song called that we small hours of morning he has a line says when your lonely heart has learned it's lesson and he's talking about running around sticking with a lot of girls well I came to a point where that wasn't doing it for me as as I as I I don't
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share here but I think I said I got to a point where and this is gonna sound graphic but I felt like I was corpses in other words the bodies the heads changed but the bodies were all the same and I and I didn't feel anything and it's because I was very good at what I did but it was it's not how he wanted to live so I made some changes and I pull back and this girl right at the same time entered my life and I said because of her character and because I didn't sleep with her right away I she got my attention and I gave her a second look and a third look and a fourth look and then I said wow this is a quality girl I
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don't want to walk away from this so and she personally know we had a great she was very interested too so because I come from a different spectrum she's a very healthy girl with a totally different background so tell ya that's why I emotional safety is very important in an emotional bond but you only want to extend yourself emotionally with the healthy girl or else you're gonna be very hurt cuz you know it's you know a small example of that is that you're talking a very hot girl at a nightclub and you think it's going well and she's you feel she's out of your league but
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you feel connected and she says she's going to the bathroom and she never comes back I don't know if that's happened anyone here but that's she just betrayed you emotionally so you're gonna a guy that hurts a guy and and that's a small example but you wanna if you're playing the game you'll want to be very careful about how much you extend yourself emotionally with unn if they're not tested if the women are not tested because they can women will do some awful things um and then I think I'm gonna leave the last five minutes for questions I anyone who wants to see this
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and I can email to you guys it's as I decide to get into a monogamous relationship I talked about ten reasons why it's a why a guy would ever why would a guy ever decide to leave variety of abundant coming all the time once you've figured out how to get it why would you turn your back word well there are reasons and I wrote the top ten and we can talk about it afterwards the talk the first that it's like Letterman I started the ten nine eight seven number one reason to get out of the game is sleep because when you're having a cycle of chicks I was always
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tired banging all night up in the morning getting them out getting my day on the road duh-de-duh a lot of sex and sleeping with a new girl at my peak I would be have two girls on rotation a week regulars and like three or four new girls per week that I was having sex with that's I mean if you think about this pretty that's a lot of chicks and no pun intended I'm it's a lot of girls and and a lot of these are strangers in my bed I don't sleep that cook as well so the number one reason actually I was just getting exhausted so
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it's it's uh that's something I'm sure as you guys get there you'll start to experience it so let me wrap up uh again this is the most important thing I said your success in life and with women will be determined by how well you play your role so know your want and we talk about sex and women but know your role at work know your role with your parents treat them well is a good son know your role well to your to your role as a citizen is to pay your taxes everyone you have roles and when it comes to women if you don't if you don't do it properly there's a lot of shifts outcomes of it
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so we have a probably two questions if we have two questions in the audience we could buy my stuff that's a very blatant thing go can you see where's that yep I'm kidding about I'm not kidding about buying it but I mean there's stuff out there I I
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haven't met a guy who's in we lost it but can we alex is there a way to get that website up if you go here and you and you look at the stuff I've done you read getting laid in New York read attraction formula watch my New York seminar I'll take you right through it every step of the way like furniture furniture placement if you're sitting by side in her Lake your knees come up here what do you do with your hand how do you write you can only reach a girl's vagina if she's standing up or if she's on the back if she's sitting like that you
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can't get in right so I talked about I know I spent time talking about the body has to be straight you think it's funny but it's not like or you know this this is a problem with getting action a belt right I used to go I get the girl worked up but she hasn't felt my dick yet I go into the bathroom and whip this off while I piss because when a girl's horny if in her head she's thinking I don't want to she's not sure if she wants to have sex well this like this tell us her red flag red xxxxX if you don't have a belt on she
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can just reach down and then she touches a hard dingy oh so it's these are very technical things that'll teach you how to I mean that's just about the logistics of the bedroom but but that's that's how much detail I go into it and then I have a whole video of picking up tons of girls you can watch it and I sex you the thing I'm most proud of we shot it in Texas because the laws are different you don't have to get their signature release so the girls never to this day they don't know they've been filmed because you only have to sign off in New York it's dual signature at least but in Texas so we flew detective hired
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a camera crew I was wearing the same hike mic me up and we just on the street and it got rained out of it she was only a day it was not even it was an afternoon in one morning but I got a lot of numbers and you could what I did is I watched these again and again why were these girls giving me their numbers so easily and I watched body language what I said and I just like a coach will watch a tape again and why is that play working who passes the ball rewind he passes the ball and I made a lot of notes underneath it and I was like that's why that word stuff I hadn't even realized
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like there's a reason she's responding and it might be the way my shoulders or if I or it's all mostly verbal I mean body language is some but it's the way there's a lot of detail but I go through exactly why this is working since so that you can do the same thing in your own life so go to this yeah go to this website and you can see that'll teach you how to be it if you take that add water bake it 90 minutes you'll be a New York New York US air so we run a bit over Tim I'm sorry that's my concept for
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today rolls [Applause]

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