Becoming a Man of Action via the Dopamine Detox (MoA #01)

Becoming a Man of Action via the Dopamine Detox (MoA #01)

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welcome to universal man my name is Marc weapon and I'm here to help you stop screwing around and play a bigger game with your life so that you can become a man of action when where it matters and earn your own respect and today what I'm gonna be doing is I'm gonna be launching a brand new series and I'm calling this series the man of action series and on the surface this is a series about productivity but if it was just about productivity will that be kind of boring in fact it's actually about much more than that it's about well I don't want
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to spoil the surprise but I will tell you that in this video you will learn an entirely new perspective on productivity that you haven't heard from before I will uncover a core issue that is infuriatingly simple but no-one's freaking talking about it and that's why I am making this whole series because there is a key critical piece to your success that you likely are missing and I want to give you that key and I want you to become a man of action
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most guys fail to build good habits because they're stuck in bad thought patterns until you recondition your brain to think new thoughts in the moments that matter you'll keep ending up in the same old places over and over again this is why I created the Metta script method it's a free guide that will teach you three simple yet insanely powerful journaling techniques that when practiced regularly will reprogram your brain for near automatic success I've read hundreds of client journals in my years as a professional coach and I've identified exactly what you need to put down on the page if you want to create positive life changes that truly stick
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and no just endlessly writing about your feelings doesn't work so if you want to learn my secret weapons of self-development then click the link below and grab your free copy of the Metta script method now so when I was a younger man I'm talking about late teens kind of early 20s and whatnot I was what you could call a man of intention okay I had tremendous intention to do big things with my life to do meaningful things with my life I had all this stuff I wanted to accomplish and I would dream and I would think about getting rich
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being powerful respected changing the world for the better and of course having an incredible sex life you know I I had this big vision and I I thought about it all the time you know I was obsessed with trying to figure out how to make it happen so you know self-development books were like my drug you know I meditated i journaled I dreamed I schemed and didn't do anything nothing happened I didn't have anything to show for it and you know what I did I act what I actually did was you know I
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partied I partied I you know played video games I jerked off and you know what that's pretty much it so that's all I was I was just a man of intention with nothing really to show for it now maybe you see a little bit of yourself in this story and if you do well then chances are you don't want to be that you don't want to be a man of intention I know I certainly didn't what I wanted to be is I wanted to be a man of action I want to be in wanting to be a man who moved
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boldly who moved deliberately who got things done not just random crap but got the important stuff done you know I saw certain people that seemed like they were at rest in motion it's like they didn't want to escape off into a fantasy world they didn't want to go run away they just wanted to be you know barreling toward their goals at a breakneck pace you know and just kicking butt along the way I would see top performers in every field and they just had such a powerful mission such a powerful drive they devoted every minute of every day to accomplishing their
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mission to their goal and I just that wasn't me I didn't even know how to get myself to do that I didn't want to you know but at the same time I did want it it was it was my dream I knew that my life of escapism and it was unsustainable right like escapism is unsustainable on a sustainable happiness you know you can have all the kind of stimulation in the world but it's just not going to bring you long-term fulfillment surprisingly I was even wise enough to know that accomplishment wouldn't even bring long-term
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fulfillment because if you just accomplished one thing yeah you feel good for a little bit but then you know that accomplishment wears off right and so what I recognized is that the only path to sustainable happiness that I could see was one of sustained action was learning how to love the process of being on the journey learning how to love being in motion toward something good I mean that's what we've got in this life we're kind of like on this ride until we're not anymore and you know we don't have a destination
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we stay at time continues to march forward and so we need to learn how to love that ride or else we're not gonna love it and you know who wants to not love life and that's really the goal of this man of action series is I want to help you fall in love with being active being productive working towards your goals doing the things that are uncomfortable but good for you and I think that this can transform basically anyone from a basement-dwelling troll to someone who's totally crushing it and
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living on the frontlines of their life and being a man that they admire now you might be wondering why are you getting into this topic mark why do you care about it there's already a ton of material about productivity why don't you just stick to the porn Recovery stuff well partially because I think I covered the porn Recovery stuff you know I my reforged man course that's all my information I'm still gonna talk about it and stuff but I need to expand my horizons and for a lot of guys after quitting porn the next thing is well how do I what I do next what I work on next and so productivity naturally fits in
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there so why am I talking about it rather than just directing people to some of the other good productivity material that already exists right because there is you know people been talking about this stuff for forever well mostly because I don't think it's been updated in the same way that I think that our relationship to our sexuality our masculinity needed to be updated for the modern world I also think that our mindset around productivity needs to get updated for the modern world because here's the thing is that most of us today we're way
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too happy living what I would call an NPC lifestyle you know if you familiar with video games and that terminology NPC stands for non playable character so it's kind of like the background characters not the main character they're the things on the sidelines that are scripted by the programmers and yet maybe they play a role but for the most part they're kind of they're far less consequence then the main character right and so many of us that's what we are we are
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NPCs in our own life and so what are those characteristics you know it's really alright do you tend to just spend the majority of your time watching other people live out their story like for example do you spend your time like watching porn watching some other person have a sexual experience do you spend your time like obsessing over sports and watching other guys succeed and strive and compete and that sort of thing do you watch you know a lot of celebrity
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culture a lot of vlogs do you like it caught up in the tabloids or you know whatever your niche that you're interested in are you always following those celebrities there or are you just constantly escaping into TV and that sort of thing or just video games you know video games watching your your character progress if you're doing if you're so involved in other people's stories well guess what you're an NPC in your own life because you're letting other people be the main character and you're not taking that mantle and I know
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this because I've lived this so much not entirely recently but still a big chunk a big old chunk of my life was spent as an NPC and it really honestly I'm done with it it was boring I'm dissatisfying and I think most people recognize this they don't want to live like a scripted character because that's what happens as you start getting sucked in other people's stories you get stuck into this kind of voyeuristic sort of digital lifestyle well you know you kind of just
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become like a script of little BOTS that goes through your pattern you're you wake up you go to work like a drone and you come home you put on the Netflix you play the video games you jerk off you go to sleep your pee and your story that's it it's not even a story really it's just a script it's a thing on autopilot it's on repeat and if you know what I'm talking about then you also know how maddening it is how soul-crushing ly pointless and empty it is and when you look at it there's also a good chance that you just want to dive back into it
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further so that you can stop feeling so you can stop thinking and realizing like a this sucks now it may suck but we stick with it why why well because if we were gonna take charge and we were gonna become the protagonists in our own lives if we were gonna really start living our own story well what would that mean well one it would mean that you have to figure out what the heck you're aiming for what are you doing that's a terrifying question what do you want out of life most people don't know that beyond just wanting more escapism right so that's one big scary thing next is
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well how you gonna get it how you gonna make it happen that's a big question - and then after you get those two big questions figured out which most people don't then you have to go do it and then that's probably the hardest part right so in order to really take charge of your life you got to do some uncomfortable stuff and then you got to face then serious trials that may last a long time require lots of failure lots of trial lots of effort lots of just grinding it out and that's rough
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right the protagonists lifestyle it's like instead of just watching the hero go through the trials on that TV show or you know watching your video game character take the hits from the enemy you actually have to take them you actually have to experience that hardship of you know the hero's journey and whatnot right and so what do we do well you know we just kind of retreat into that NPC lifestyle and the reason that we got to talk about this particularly in the modern context is because the NPC lifestyle has gotten so
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easy and so stimulating so distracting because you know we've got enough wealth entertainment and mind-altering substances to keep anyone distracted from the fact that they're not really living their life's purpose but they're not even pursuing it they're not even trying to find out if their life even has a purpose and so like we just keep taking our edge off of this desire we just keep drowning it in all kinds of stimulation fun whatever getting caught
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up in other people's crap whether it's you know the politics whether it's you know just whatever then the hot new thing is out everyone just thrusts themself into that because they don't want to be here they don't want to be that they won't want to figure out what are they doing except for a few people right the people who are actually moving and shaking taking advantage of all the and tremendous opportunity that exists in the modern world you see those people they fly to the top and honestly I don't even think it's that hard today I just because I don't think there's that many people who really break through this
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barrier who really go all-in on becoming the protagonist of their own life and guess what's not going to solve this hacks tips tricks all that kind of [ __ ] and that's what most well not most but a lot of productivity information that's what it's about it's about here's how you gotta set up your to-do list here's a new app that'll solve your problem and those things can all be good but they're not gonna solve this fundamental bloc that keeps people
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in a state of unproductivity lack of real meaningful action so what will what will cause you to have a real breakthrough well this is that thing that I mentioned in the beginning of the video this odd sort of phenomena it's honestly you gotta get bored that's kind of the heart of it is you have to learn how to get psychologically spiritually and neuro chemically hungry for stimulation you got to get yourself so
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bored that you're actually willing to step out of your little hobbit hole and start working toward Mordor so you can throw away the ring not to get too nerdy but that's kind of the point here is that you need to have something that takes you that you're willing to buck your npc you know habit cycle and start doing something different doing something scary doing something meaningful now this can happen naturally okay like when I was a kid the video
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game The Legend of Zelda Ocarina of Time came out one of the most popular games you know least probably of all time right and I remember it came out and I was nine years old at the time I believe and I did the very first kind of thing in the game where you start out in this kind of little forest village or whatever and you go and you get this sword you have dodged some boulders and you get sword okay once I got the sword you're supposed to kind of get the shield or something you got you go into the first dungeon it's like this old rotting tree with all these monsters inside of it and
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you're supposed to you know go through the dungeon slay the monsters unlock the chests do the stuff and then kill the boss at the end well first time I stepped in little nine-year-old me I'm pretty sure that I got like a plant like chomped me and then I fell through a hole and then I died and I freaked out and I didn't ever want to go back because once you die you start back at like the safe area the little forest village and guess what I did for a week I just ran around the little forest village where there's no enemies or anything like that and I just chopped
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down bushes and jumped and did [ __ ] like that I didn't do anything but I just pretended I was doing something I pretended I was fighting the monsters I was working up the courage or whatever and what happened what eventually got me back into the dungeon eventually beating and moving forward I was bored I was bored I wanted something more I was more bored than I was afraid and that's kind of the key here that's that's the key to productivity you have to be more bored than afraid or you need to have some kind of serious pain
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driving you forward but that's kind of a different sort of scenario we don't want you sustainable productivity is probably not best generated by some sort of crisis you know obviously you can be productive enough to go to work because you need money right but that's not gonna next that's not gonna have you push your limits that's not gonna have you reach the next level of your development that's not gonna have you chase your dreams that's just gonna have you find a stable sort of income and do the bare minimum necessary to grind that income out that's you know what most
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people do so I mean we're talking about going something further than this in order to go further I think you need boredom or if we're gonna put it another way it's like you need dopaminergic ammo it's like you need to have the excess dopamine available to channel into new endeavors and so this can't happen naturally you know and I think it's supposed to happen naturally like you know if you're you know like me and my friends we used to party really hard and then eventually
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as we got older we moved through our 20s and stuff like that way this kind of started you know got bored with it we did it enough it wasn't as exciting we started to do other stuff maybe more meaningful more fulfilling interaction like doing activities and things like that rather than just binge drinking and that sort of thing and it was a natural sort of progression but the thing that's unique about our modern times is that our entertainment our escapes our substances everything is so much more intense if you just wait for this to naturally occur if you just wait for
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yourself to get bored of your NPC loop it just might not happen our media has gotten so good at hooking into our brain that we're you can be constantly stimulated and distracted if you allow yourself to be obviously I've talked about this a lot in the context of porn but one of the reasons why internet porn is fundamentally different than you know just you know using fantasy or magazines or whatever is that porn offers infinite novelty and the brain is designed to respond to novelty it makes it so that
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you can get excited excited excited excited constantly constantly constantly and as long as there's something new and it's is presented in a compelling enough way then your brain lights on fire and then you dive back into it but the problem is if that novelty just points to something vapid and useless to you well then that's you using up that dopamine to be distracted rather than using it toward something useful I mean just look at the media since you know Donald Trump has been elected that's all they've talked about sometimes just on and on and on and and not about anything
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else but it's enough to get people clicking get people doing stuff because it hooks into their brain it hooks into that novelty seeking thing they just need to find a new way to talk about it a new pitch a new scandal the new whatever and as long as that's there people are gonna click people are gonna be distracted people are gonna be outraged they're addicted to the drama so if you aren't gonna get bored of this stuff naturally well what do you got to do well this is this is where I think the key lies and I'm calling it a dopamine detox and the idea is simple
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it's essentially a fast from dopamine inducing activities particularly low value ones and it's kind of like a regular fast like if you've ever fasted from food you know say you didn't eat for a day or he didn't eat for you know 16 hours or whatever you get really hungry and that first piece of food that you eat is like the best food you've ever tasted I remember this when I did a fast like that and I sat down I had it was literally steamed broccoli that I put a little salt on and that was like one of
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the best things I've ever eaten it was amazing I was so hungry for it I wanted it normally I wouldn't I wouldn't be so you know pumped about it and that's the kind of the point here is that if you're constantly like if I'm if I just ate a whole bunch of you know junk food ice cream and chips and that sort of thing piece of steamed broccoli well no thank you I I want no part of it but if I'm starving well then yeah I'm gonna want to jump on that and you see this with you know guys in prison you know they're caught they
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don't have their board they don't have a lot to do so what do they do they read they write they draw they work out all the stuff that moat that the modern man tends to struggle to do you know the modern guy just watches Netflix and you know plays video games and that sort of thing and you know this is you see this in if you read the biographies of you know from from times past like people did all kinds of stuff that we don't do anymore because we're not bored enough or not bored enough to do it so the idea behind the dopamine detox is you cut out
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low value high stimulation activities and then you focus on cultivating this hunger this boredom and then you start doing more valuable and useful things and it honestly it works like magic it's pretty insane now one of the most popular forms of this that is already kind of going around is this idea of a porn reboot and I would say this is probably the most one of the most dramatic things you can do and it's where you should start because that is the biggest hyper stimulus and most
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men's life that that's the thing that releases the most dopamine the only chance where that's not the cases of that person's a hardcore drug addict and in that case they should probably quit that for focus on on quitting your drugs first and then you quit porn and you know I've done a lot of work about that but that's not where it stops in fact I would argue that that's where it begins once you quit porn well that's that's gonna build you up to a level of discipline to about here okay you need takes you from down here to you know
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first level but we can go so much higher than that and it's just about finding what are those other sinks then what are those other dopamine sinks that distract you that use up this valuable neurochemical resource in a way that does not provide you with any benefit we've gotta find those and we start strategically cutting them out cutting them out and getting yourself a little bit hungrier so you can go further so that you can you can latch into the things that mean something to you much better so for example right now I am quitting video games in social media and
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I had them in a fairly moderate place where I would do maybe an hour two of them a day sometimes a little more sometimes a little less but you know that's where I was at but I was still getting a huge chunk of juice out of that time period and what I found is that as I cut them out holy smokes my my it's like I'm on it's like I'm on drugs it's like I am so interested in my work I am reading non-stop like for example when I would do creative work in the past like
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working on new content I could do usually like three hours that was about my limit if I had a really good day I could do four hours yesterday or yesterday or the day before I did four hours straight no break which I've never done before and then I worked for like three more hours and then I got up early the following morning and did some more just because I was so hooked in to what I was doing and I've never done that before I've never had that feeling where it felt as where
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I felt as on fire about something and you know I'm already pretty well into this dopamine detox around this sort of thing so that's why I'm talking about it but it's it's crazy it's like I can work as much as I want I can read as much as I want I can do music I can do all these other things but the most I would say profound thing beyond just the productivity is the piece that come because here's the thing that most people don't recognize is that when it comes to productivity one of the things that we're constantly dealing with is if you've got this high stimulation low value pocket of activities in your life
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then anything productive that you want to do is compared to that so it's kind of like if you've got a bunch of junk food in the cabinet and you're trying to eat healthy then every single time you sit down and eat you have to choose between am I going to eat sweets or am I going to eat you know the healthy stuff and as long as that comparisons there there's this there's this tension there's this internal conflict inside of you but as you take it away actually what you find is peace like why if I
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just take the the video games and the social media and the internet surfing off the table all of a sudden there's no more conflict it's just like alright I know what I can do I know what I've decided is good for me and I can just get the choose from that and then it's just you just flow into it and the peace comes not from just the lack of conflict but also then just the affirmation of the fact that you're doing something good and it's wonderful it's really truly wonderful and that's that's probably the crown jewel of all this is the sense of satisfaction that
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you know one of the things I mentioned in the beginning of this I kind of switched up my intro text it's like I want you to be able to earn your own respect and I think the only way that you can do that is if you know that you're really living the best life that you can live and that you're really putting everything in order and you're really sacrificing towards your highest goals now that's what I want for you and I don't think you could do it all at once I don't think that you can just cut it all out and it's probably not that the
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right move to just cut everything stimulating out of your life at once you can get a shot I mean if you have an incredible level of motivation and discipline and you know environmental control that might be possible but for the most people it's going to be a ladder it's going to be taking on one chunk at a time and you can change everything you just can't change it all at once and so that's what this series is going to be about us but gonna be about helping you move through this process of getting rid of the bad [ __ ] that's you know highly stimulating below value
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and bringing in the good stuff the high-value hi pleasure high satisfaction sort of lifestyle that causes you to really you know live your life be the protagonist be the person who is the mover and shaker rather than just the person who's watching the game on the sidelines okay guys so that's what I have for you in this video I hope you're as excited about this new series as I am and I will be coming at you with more concepts I got a bunch of stuff planned for this that will be rolling out over the next few weeks so make sure you keep checking back in and so that's that's it
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so play big I'll see you in the next one

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