SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES Help You CRUSH a Toxic Relationship with a Narcissist Like a WARRIOR

SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES Help You CRUSH a Toxic Relationship with a Narcissist Like a WARRIOR

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today we're going to be talking about some spiritual principles that can help you ascend and transcend a narcissistic relationship [Music] so when we're talking about spiritual principles we're talking about ideas that really serve all of us regardless of what religious practice we ascribe to regardless of what faith we believe in what god we praise or what have you whatever higher power
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you pray to whatever higher power you believe in whatever your version of the higher power is when i say spiritual practices i'm talking about human practices i'm talking about practices that help you grow as a human being help me grow as a human being ideas that help me expand and grow and rather than stay stuck as an ego in a 3d body in a pain body as eckhart tolle would say so i'm talking about ideas and principles that help
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the human mind ascend and transcend programming that help us all escape the 3d matrix why so that we can step into the field of potential which i believe exists between neurons in the brain so right there in the synapse in the space where it seems like nothing is happening that's where your true potential lies and i want to talk today about why so many of us are unable to reach our potential when we are in toxic relationships with
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people who are stuck in the 3-d who are unaware they are unaware and who refuse to awaken who think that everybody else is wrong and they are always right that's a real problematic personality to deal with day in and day out so we're talking about a print one key spiritual idea i want you to understand is that you've come to expand and to grow and so what happens in one space happens in all space so if you think about an apple seed
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there's great tremendous potential inside that apple seed there's the potential for one apple seed to become an orchard of apples to feed thousands and thousands of people right to produce various different types of products just from one apple seed but the apple seed needs to be planted in to a field of potential and then it has to be given everything it needs to what to expand and to grow and that's what
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we've come to do we've come to expand and to grow and to reach our potential we are organic human beings very similar to plants and what do plants do plants naturally lean towards the sun and what do plants do plants can actually generate their own food from the sun so we really can generate our own energy if you will and there are some people who believe that there are some super superhuman beings that can even generate their own food
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pretty amazing but there are some people that actually believe that that's possible people that don't even have to eat okay whatever but for the rest of us who have to wake up and eat and drink water and take care of ourselves and how understanding these spiritual ideas of spiritual practices can actually help us transcend a narcissistic relationship so number one you've come to expand and to grow the universe that you and i have been born into that we call 3d reality we are bathing in a field of potential we are bathing in
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the matrix science has proven to us that we only see about four percent four to six percent of what's really happening in the field that means that 94 of what's happening around us our human eye doesn't even pick up we're not aware of it so how below the veil are we all really how unaware are we of the potential how unaware are we of what we don't see pretty incredible and so if you think of this another spiritual idea or practice is
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that understanding energy that you at your core are energy so you've come to grow and you're energetic in nature that if we sliced you up into its tiny tiny tiniest particle you would be a band of light which is pretty amazing and if you take anything in this universe the same thing would happen you would find a band of light at its core we all come from the same place so whoever and whatever created you created me whoever and whatever is the cause of a
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volcanic explosion is the same source responsible for a sunset or a sunrise and so we all come from the same source if you will and understanding that at its core it's some people will argue with that and they'll find it difficult to imagine that the same source that could create the light can create the dark or or perhaps the intention was always love and as people separate from love and move further away from their true source they get darker and darker and darker
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and so they lose the light that was that is within them naturally and their soul's journey then would be to return back to the self or return back to the light we're dealing with people who are narcissistic whether it's npd or people with high narcissistic traits what we realize what we can realize is that these are people who are stuck in the 3d it's like they are stuck in the ectoplasm or the quagmire of their past experiences their pain body
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and they are unconscious they're unconscious to what they're unconscious to the automatic default settings of the brain how people respond to trauma they're they're unaware that their childhood experiences have programmed to think a certain way to have create certain thought patterns to create certain belief patterns they're unaware as to this idea that their personality is really their dead self or their ego self and their personality is the culmination of their past reality
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their personality will reflect their memories and their experiences and their programs or the data that went in but that's not the end of the story because we are so much more than our personalities we are so much more than our trauma we are so much more than our experiences and our memories and if you are lucky then that is something that resonates with you and you want to learn more about that you want to learn how you can escape this 3d paradigm that has me recreating my past
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how can i escape it the problem is that if you are involved with someone who is highly narcissistic you get involved with the trauma bond and the trauma bond is like glue it keeps you stuck and paralyzed in the 3d experience when you are in a trauma bonded situation with a narcissist you are get given an experience these periods of intermittent calm maybe intermittent euphoria intermittent pleasure intermittent validation where everything is pretty awesome
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but before long there you go you're being accused of something you're not guilty of you're being blamed for something you didn't do you experience betrayal you experience a smear campaign you begin to become aware of triangulation right now this intermittent pleasurable experience has now been overshadowed by this devastating experience that takes you into the wee hours of the morning trying to discuss trying to help this person that you think is more narcissistic
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to understand how their actions or inactions affected you hurt your family hurt your relationship is even hurting themselves but they're not getting it sometimes you'll have someone with high narcissistic traits pacify you yeah okay i hear you okay i get it and you know what in a day or two you're back to the same thing you're stuck you're stuck in the ectoplasm of the 3d recreating the past so it's groundhog's day when you're with a narcissist it's just groundhog's day and what ends up happening is
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you're losing your source energy you keep giving to a situation that is really like giving to a black hole it's a negative feedback loop now the narcissist by nature is not self-reflective they're aware that they have a self but there is very little self-knowledge there's really very little desire to look within and to change very little desire to look within and become vulnerable and to access that vulnerability and say wow there might be something off with the way that i speak to people
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there might be something off with the way that i treat people this idea of getting along with other people for the sake of expansion no it doesn't exist narcissists are out for themselves they might act like they're not but if you spend enough time with the narcissist you'll you will inevitably decide and realize like this narcissist isn't really thinking about anybody else but how they can use people to do what they want to do i'm just a means to an
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end they don't really care about me as a person right they've exploited me they've talked poorly about me they're using me they're using me for money they're using me for a place to live they're using me because i know people people of influence they're putting me down when they're around other people to make themselves feel better they're cheating on me they're lying they're using my name to buy property whatever it is whatever your unique experience is but if you spend enough time around a narcissist
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what you will realize is that you and everyone they know including their children have been exploited to make their lives better and the minute you are of no use and no value to someone with high narcissistic traits that's when they reveal themselves that's when you are discarded that's when you are devalued that's when in their head you go from being important to absolutely insignificant and now you are a threat so they have to distance themselves from you mentally emotionally and physically psychologically
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they have to tell tell you that you're the wrong one they have to spat out all these ideas about how terrible you are and they have to tell everybody else the same thing if they can no longer control you they control or they try to control how other people see you so they are vindictive they don't let go and it's about really destroying you on the way out the best that they can because that helps keep their false sense of self intact you were the bad one they were the good one right because they're not looking within
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now this idea that we've come to expand we've come to grow this idea that we're all light at our core this idea that trauma keeps us away from our light if you're suffering from cptsd you have triggers right if you grew up feeling like you weren't good enough you have this idea in your head you have these beliefs i'm not good enough it's hard for you to accept love it's hard for you to give yourself love right so think about this apple how does this apple seed become an orchard right with many
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many thousands and thousands of apples just from this one seed if it didn't accept love if it didn't think it was worthy of the sun and of of water and of the nutrients in the soil what a lot of us do who come from trauma backgrounds is we recoil when it comes to offering ourselves love we give ourselves the opposite we tell ourselves that we're no good we repeat these patterns in our head we don't know it's all part of the 3d ectoplasm or the quagmire of the 3d reality
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the illusion that eckhart tolle talks about we don't know that so we stay stuck and what do we attract we attract people who mirror back this you're not good enough stuff and we stay stuck you throw in a trauma bond now it's almost impossible to escape what helped me along my life's path is to recognize that spiritual practices and spiritual truths matter when i recognize that i'm not loving myself i am basically going against the tide of love and spiritual evolution to spiritually
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evolve i need to love myself to spiritually evolve i need to know that i'm worthy right to spiritually evolve i need boundaries in order for me to become all of my potential to have the same potential tap into the same potential as that appleseed i need to plant myself in good soil i need to water that soil i need to make sure that i am protective of that soil i get enough sunshine i do what i have to do to protect the potential within me so that i can grow and i can expand
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very much like any flower that you plant in any garden or any tree that's planted anywhere you've come to grow when we are dealing with someone who is narcissistic we have to understand that they are not planted in good soil they're not going to grow they're not going to seek the light they're not going to generate their own energy which is why i always say that a narcissist is far more codependent or reliant upon someone in the field than a codependent is so a codependent by definition has a
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poor sense of self and then seeks other people in the 3d to take care of to rescue and to fix in order to uh garner a sense of self a positive sense of self and unfortunately codependents end up in relationships with people who do not take responsibility for themselves lots of the times they end up feeling really invisible in the relationship and eventually codependents become very frustrated because they below the veil of consciousness thought that if i took care of someone
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if i put someone else's needs before of my own i would garner a sense of self and certainly i would not feel alone and abandoned anymore but that's not what happens you end up feeling more alone when you decide unconsciously that you are the rescuer that you are the caretaker that you are the people pleaser you are the person that calms everybody down when they're upset and below the veil of consciousness you really think that that's your role as long as you stay below the veil of consciousness you're stuck in the
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quagmire of the 3d with other people who are stuck in the quagmire of the 3d so if you just think about a couple of principles spiritual principles this idea that you've come to expand and to grow that's a whole purpose this idea that there's a light within you and you've got to learn to let it shine this idea that you have potential seated within you but you have to nurture that potential so it's not unlike a plant or a seed that has been planted in terrible soil
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that seed cannot grow and reach its full potential because of the environment that it's sitting in so you think about a child that is born to circumstance a where there are very little opportunities for this child to expand the potential is still seated within that child but what happens so many of us who are born to unfortunate circumstances who have all of this potential believe that we are in this environment and everything that we're experiencing all the lack that
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we're experiencing it must be our fault and then below the veil of consciousness we end up taking these feelings and these we develop belief systems and now we have memories and now our body has recorded the way it feels and we take this body that's been distorted by the past and we take it into the now and we experience it in the future and every day we fail to realize that very often times we don't step into our potential because we are trauma bonded with people
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who are living below the veil of consciousness who are highly narcissistic who are not interested in the spiritual journey and i mean in an authentic way because there are plenty of people that say they are on the spiritual path that might confuse you who say they're on the spiritual path to mirror where you are to gain your trust and that's so confusing and it's so sad when you are someone who trusted someone who said they were
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a spiritual teacher or a guru or someone who was just on the path to enlightenment who was really interested in this work and you discover that they're more narcissistic you discover that they can be punishing you discover that they have this tremendous ego and that they're accusing you of saying things on purpose to hurt them and you're trying to one-up them and you're not it's really all in their head it's how they perceive you and so it can be very confusing when
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this happens so we have to understand that when we're trying to escape from a narcissistic relationship sometimes peeling ourselves back and observing this from a more spiritual outlook this idea that you've come to grow this idea that you've come to expand this idea that the past has created this body and these memories within you and below the veil of consciousness you take all of that into your now experience
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and if you are a co-dependent child who fond who it who acquiesced excuse me who subjugated his or her needs for the sake of a rageful mom or an alcoholic dad you are taking that into the now and you are not living out your true potential you have the right to leave that in the past to crack open that shell like a lobster does to crawl out of that lobster shell and to even eat that shell to help you become a better and greater
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version of yourself it's it helped me and i really hope it helps some of you when i think about people who are stuck inside narcissism to me they're stuck in the ectoplasm of the 3d they can't see themselves they don't want to see themselves they're fixated externally what can i control who can i exploit who can i blame who can i manipulate it's it's a terrible terrible terrible way to live because there's no real growth in that type of a personality which is why people who love narcissists
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end up in therapy because they're so drained they're so exhausted they think they're going crazy because the narcissist is so convinced that they're right in this 3d ectoplasm matrix and everybody else is just an extension of his or her reality and you live to serve them and like i said you throw in some codependency you throw in some trauma bonding you throw in some self-doubt and you've got a recipe for a matrix of disaster and you raise children in that dynamic and and it goes on and it goes on and it
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goes on that's the holographic nature of the universe however we have all come to live above the veil of consciousness to escape the 3d paradigm and to really move into higher dimensions if we can accept what is and if we can which is what i did adopt some spiritual ideas now it doesn't matter what faith you practice but if you understand that your spirit has come here to evolve but you need your intellect to do that
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you need consciousness to expand to do that you cannot do this work i'll say it the way albert heinz einstein said it you can't solve a problem with the same level of intelligence that created the problem so you can't solve a problem from the same level of self-awareness that you had when you started the problem you can't solve a problem from the same level of consciousness that you had when you you began this problem
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many of us are childlike in the way that we relate to other people and we don't even know it we think because we're 56 years old and we have phds and we're neuroscientists and we're doctors and lawyers and homemakers and career people that this should not be happening to us but i can tell you from experience as professional in this business i have coached plenty of psychologists psychiatrists neuroscientists actors celebrities
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lawyers you name it who are struggling in this reality because they're trying to solve a problem from the same level of intelligence that they had when the problem began so to spiritually evolve we have to finally put to rest this idea that we don't need to expand our consciousness yes we do we don't need to work on our level of intellect yes we do we don't need to work on our level of cognition yeah you do you have to become highly cognitive you
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have to learn to be logical you need to learn to be reasonable emotions are great but they should not be running your ship you have to learn to master your emotions you have to learn to respond to people not just react to people all of that takes time and these are all spiritual ideas learning to control the self coming back to the self grounding the self meditating detaching these are all spiritual ideas learning to love yourself as you love others but
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you love others as you love yourself so that means you have to come back to the self when you're in a relationship with a narcissist there's enmeshment where is yourself the narcissist doesn't want you to have a self the narcissist wants to and mesh the narcissist wants to control you you're not allowed to have a self you're not allowed to have different ideas you're not allowed to push back you're not allowed to have a different perception you're not allowed to like that person you threatens them so there's enmeshment and this idea that you have come to detach and to separate from others
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for the sake of merging with the self is an idea that might help some of you who are struggling inside the matrix or the ectoplasm of narcissistic relationships learn how to detach enough and use these ideas to help you stay tethered to the self as you develop the ability to set yourself free so understand that you've come to grow understand narcissists are not going to grow understand that you've come to expand narcissists are not going to expand understand that there's a field of
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potential within you narcissists are not interested in the field of potential within them you have come to connect to the light that you are narcissists are not interested in the light that would sit that is within i think because psychologically they're so far removed from their core that they have gone dark and they need the energy of other people which is why they so often times draw in people who are agreeable draw in people who tend to be caretakers draw in people who
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are um evolved spiritually because they cannot generate their own light their own energy and so i hope these ideas these ideas that have helped me expand and grow and let go with love and light when i when i walk away i do it while i'm saying namaste because i don't want to judge anybody somebody who is stuck in the field doesn't know that they're stuck in a field and somebody who is unaware doesn't know that they're unaware and so i believe that you can judge someone based on their level of awareness
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at any given moment and so if someone's highly unaware that they're unaware i want to be careful about judging them right because i'm the one i'm the blessed one for having the awakening i'm the blessed one from for being able to detach i'm the blessed one from being able to know there's a three day know that this is an ectoplasm of [ __ ] and mire know that i can raise my consciousness know that i can escape know that i can control my own ego know that i can control my emotions know
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that i can please my own mind know that i can catch a non-codependent thought versus a codependent thought know that i can i know when i'm being loving and i'm not being loving i have the ability to self-correct know that i have the ability to be self-analytical to look within these are all gifts these are blessings and so in that space i don't have to judge anybody i just have to keep growing and keep evolving and keep looking for the light within that's my job and so i hope that these
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ideas have helped you and the next time you find yourself in a relationship with someone who doesn't seem to be able to grow ask yourself how long you want to stay in a relationship with someone or engaging with someone who would prefer that you not grow who would prefer that you stunt your growth for the sake of their reality someone who is stuck in the 3d needs people who are also stuck in the 3d that's the only way a narcissistic relationship
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