10 Phrases Narcissists Hate

10 Phrases Narcissists Hate

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Do you want to know what  phrases narcissists absolutely   hate? By the end of this video, you're going  to know just what to say that is going to   send that narcissist into a tizzy the  way they like to usually do to you.  Hi, I'm Rebecca Zung, and I've been recognized as  one of the top 1% of attorneys in the country, and   I've written a couple of bestselling books,  Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R. and Breaking   Free A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide. And most  importantly for you, what I do here in these   videos and on this channel is I help you learn  how to effectively and successfully negotiate with   narcissists. And if that sounds good  to you, then go ahead and hit Subscribe   and hit the Notification Bell. And that way,  you'll get notified when I upload new content,   and I go live, and I upload new  videos, and I have interviews, and   all kinds of really, really great stuff for you. So, let's talk about the words that narcissists  
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hate. They're usually the ones that are trying  to get you. And if you want to know about the   narcissist's favorite sayings, check out my video  on the Narcissist's Favorite Sayings. They have   their own little collection of things that they  love to say to drive you insane, to make you feel   small, to devalue you, to make you feel like  you shouldn't even be a speck of dust. I mean,   I've had so many people say to me, "I think  he or she wants me to actually kill myself."  But that is not true because then, there would go  their source of supply. So basically, they love   getting the supply, that narcissistic supply, that  thing that feeds their ego. They want to get it   from as many sources as they possibly can. And if  you want to know more about narcissistic supply,   check out my video on Narcissistic Supply  where I actually define the whole thing.  But basically, what they're trying to do is make  them feel more powerful over you by controlling  
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you and driving you crazy. So, they bring you  in with love bombing, and they get you going,   and they make you think they're so wonderful  and so perfect because they're really, really   charismatic. And they're terrific at making you  think that they are perfect in some way, whether   it's in a business setting or a relationship  setting, they come on with this charismatic,   I'm so perfect for you way of being, and maybe  even offer to do all kinds of things for you.   And they might even do one or two things for you  in the beginning. A lot of it is offering and   future faking and all that sort of thing. And  if you want to know more about future faking,   check out my video on Future Faking as well. What can do to actually get their goat,   actually annoy the crap out of them? So here  are some words that narcissists absolutely hate.  Number one is any kind of praise or any kind  of adulation or respect or anything about  
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anyone else. They really cannot take that.  Even if you just say, "Wow, I really admire   that person. They're really good at this." Or  even if you just complimented them in some way,   "They're really great in business," or, "I like  their house." Somehow, any kind of compliment   about someone else becomes something about  them. It becomes something that irritates them,   that bothers them in some way that maybe you like  them better, or you think more highly of them than   you think of them. And so therefore, it becomes  a threat to them in some way. So any kind of nice   words about somebody other than them is a problem. Number two is, "That's not true." If you just   literally say, "I think you're lying," then  they hate that, especially if you have proof  
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that they're lying or that you know that they're  not telling the truth. I mean, you could literally   show them the proof right in front of their face,  and they will go right to projection or denial or   all those other kinds of things. And definitely  check out my video on what happens When You Catch   a Narcissist in a Lie. There's several different  things that they normally do, but they really,   really hate it if you just simply say, and you  just say it factually. You don't have to say it   with emotion or anger or anything like that. You  can just say it as if you're reporting the news,   "That's just not true." So that's number two. Number three is, "I will not." In other words,   I will not go with you. I will not do that  thing that you want. I will not go along   with your plan to defraud somebody or whatever  it is. I had a narcissistic client one time   who used to say to me, "Rebecca, you're really  going to be lonely in heaven by yourself." And,  
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to try to goad me into doing  something that I didn't want to do.   No. I just said, "No, I will not do that."  So that's number three is I will not.  All right. Number four is similar which  is, "I cannot." Literally, I can't do that.   I can do that right now. I can't do that ever.  I can't... I'm not physically able. I'm not   emotionally able. I'm not spiritually able. I'm  not able. I just cannot help you in whatever way   it is that you want me to do. And they  don't like that. I cannot. I will not.   Not happening. They don't want to hear that. And the next one is, "You lost." I mean,   even if it's just playing a game or  something and they happen to lose. You   lost. They don't want to hear, "You lost." Even if  they did lose, they don't want to hear about that.   So, you can't actually say because they're going  to have all kinds of reasons why maybe it looks   like they lost, but they didn't actually  lose, namely, probably because you cheated  
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or something happened that caused them to make it  look like they lost, even though they definitely   did win. And if you are so ready to be the  winner, give me an, "I win" in the comments.  The next one is, "You're wrong." So, again, even  if they are wrong, and you give them proof of   it. I mean, you could be showing them something  on your phone or showing them a piece of paper   or something that actually proves to them  that they are wrong. They're never going to   admit that they were wrong. And so for those  of you who are dealing with a narcissist,   don't waste your breath trying to prove them  wrong because they're never going to admit to it.   The words that sounds something like,  "Oh my gosh. You are totally right.   I'm 100% wrong. I am so sorry. You totally  didn't deserve that behavior. I am terrible."   You think that you're ever going to hear those  words? No. I mean, you're better off waiting for  
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goldfish to fly or the moon to be made out  of green cheese or whatever it is. I mean,   anything is more possible than that. I mean,  they're really not going to do that. So,   you just have to believe that karma will win out. You use the tactics that I teach you on how to win   in other ways, creating your strategy and your  leverage and all of the things that I teach you,   and you will have to prove them wrong in a  different way because just by simply saying,   "You're wrong," they hate that. And that  you're not going to get anywhere with it.  The next one is, "I don't care." I mean,  what is worse to a narcissist? You think that   being mean to a narcissist is the worst  thing or fighting back against them is the   worst thing? Actually, no. The worst thing to a  narcissist is that you are completely apathetic,   that you just seriously don't care at all.  I mean, when you can get to a point where   someday maybe you don't even remember that  narcissist's name or what they look like or  
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what they did to you or anything like that, that's  actually the best revenge on a narcissist because   they hate that. They don't want to be irrelevant.  They'd rather be in your face and having you   complain about them and think that they were a  horrible person than be completely irrelevant. So   they absolutely hate the words, "I don't care." So the next one is, "I'm busy" which actually   is very closely related to the ninth one  which is, "Not now." So I'm busy or not now,   meaning I can't be with you right now. I can't  do what you want right now. I will not do what   you want right now or maybe ever. And they really  don't want to hear that. I mean, so with I'm busy   or not now, they expect you to move mountains  and drop everything for them right now, or   they'll just walk right into your office  or walk right into your house and expect  
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and demand to have attention drawn upon them  immediately. Or maybe they walk into a restaurant,   and they expect the best table right away. And if  people don't immediately all flock to giving them   what it is that they want, then they actually  are personally affronted, and with narcissists,   you're either for them or against them. And so  if they don't perceive you to be 100% for them   and giving you every minute of attention every  second of the day immediately, when they want it,   then obviously you're against them. Right? So that brings me to the last one which is   the word that they hate the most which  is, "No" in any way, shape or form.   Narcissists have no boundaries. They don't  think that they should have any boundaries.   They feel entitled. And so, if you say the word,  "No" in any way, shape or form, it is a personal   affront to them. They are personally triggered.  That narcissistic injury gets triggered,  
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and there comes out flying the narcissistic rage,  and hell hath no fury like a narcissist scorned.  So anyway, those are the 10 phrases that  narcissist hate the most. And when you   are going to negotiate with them, you should keep  those in the back of your mind and either use them   strategically or don't use them at all, depending  on what it is that you want to accomplish.  And so if you are getting ready to negotiate with  a narcissist, grab my free Crush My Negotiation   prep worksheet. Don't negotiate without it and  make sure you join my free private Facebook group.   It's called Narcissist Negotiators with Rebecca's  Zung. Thousands of us in there helping each other,   supporting each other, and we'll make sure  that there's a link to that below as well.  If you liked this video, Like it and Share  it and drop me a comment. Let me know,   "I'm here to win it. I won, or I win, or  you lose." I want to see your comments   and also make sure if you haven't already, you  Subscribe and you hit that Notification Bell. 
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I'm Rebecca Zung. I am so glad that you are here,  and I'm so glad that you stopped by today. And I   will see you in the next video. Remember, today's  a great day to start negotiating your best life.

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