What to do when your boss is jealous of you...?

What to do when your boss is jealous of you...?

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hi I'm Norma Brecker and I'm the career doctor and I'm here for the fourth part of a series that we've been doing on dealing with a difficult boss I wanted to share a story with you that a client told me a few months ago this client had been with her company for more than 12 years she's smart she's talented and she's a great communicator and she's absolutely loved by her staff of seven so you're probably wondering what the problem is the problem is is that she's
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so good at her job and so loved by her peers that she's seen as a threat by her boss now although the boss's reaction is neither reasonable or rational it's reality and it's my clients reality and my client has to deal with this reality or deal with the fact that she's dead in the water career voice you always want your boss on your side and a boss who is threatened by you even though you're not doing this intentionally
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is ultimately a boss that won't support you and may even thwart you in your career progress the clients boss is experiencing a career turned down she's seen his old school she's harsh she's angry she's passive-aggressive in her responses to my employee my client unintentionally is a threat to her because my client is liked better by her staff by her co-workers and also by many in upper management now you may be thinking that this should not be my
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clients problem and I couldn't agree more with you or I couldn't agree less with you it is the boss's problem and the boss has issues that may be emotional or psychological in nature but they're beyond our knowledge and our ability to solve so what my client has to do is to learn to be more aware of herself and her impact on her boss so that she could moderate her behavior and at least have a chance of improving the relationship if your boss perceives you
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as a threat it will become your reality being a threat comes in the comparison not in the underlying element for example being smart is great in smarter than your boss can be a problem in my client situation she is smarter and more talented and even a better communicator than a boss her boss feels threatened and reacts badly towards my client my client presented a new idea at a meeting and everyone at the meeting was very taken with the idea the boss was furious with
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my client although she pretended to like the idea at the meeting but after the meeting and henceforth she was cold dismissive and even angry to my client when my client saw or spoke to her so what can my client do and what did my client do well first we figured out that the boss is threatened and it's my clients job to the best of her ability to manage up to manage her boss when she has a good or good idea and she has many she has to be careful about how she
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presents her idea the boss may have a weak ego and hence she has to use kid gloves when presenting the idea Terra boss secondly in order to gain support and consensus she needs to try to build up her boss whenever possible and if a situation is problematic she has to be careful never never to let the boss think she's blaming him or her or something that the boss did she has to make sure that she couches that in very careful language in other words she has
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to communicate carefully and with sensitivity to be able to protect her boss's fragile ego finally she needs to good-mouth her boss as Michel and Deborah singer Dobson say in their wonderful book managing up good mouthing your boss doesn't mean you don't take credit for what you've done if somebody compliments you on something you've done but it does mean that you throw in something about your boss and their contribution to the complement so for example if somebody says that was a
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great idea you're presented at the meeting you can say yeah and Jane who's your boss spoke about it with me right before our meeting and she really helped clarify a few points and I'm thrilled and that's why the idea really I think hit us at the on the mark where it had to be again you're not to miss dismissing your role in terms of the idea but your good mouth and your boss and you know how fast gossip travels in the corporate arena so good mouthing is kind of a sort of positive gossip finally you need to make
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yourself your boss's Ally I know this isn't always easy to do but the more you align yourself with your boss the better chance you have of your boss not viewing you as a threat know your boss's style know their values know their goals and their expectations try to make your boss look good and when you when they look good you're gonna look good and you'll be seen as less of a threat my client has been using these ideas for the past month and she called me this past week
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to tell me that she and her boss went out to a pleasant lunch now rightfully so my client still doesn't love her boss or even trust her boss fully but what she has done is softened her approach when she interacts with her boss and her boss is less threatened or perceives her as less of a threat I also suggested to my client and I would suggest to you this too that you read this wonderful book managing up 59 ways to build a
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career advancing relationship with your boss now I'm not walking this book I don't know the authors but I must tell you if you work through this book systematically you'll find some ideas that might help you improve your relationship with your boss and even remove the perception of you being a threat to your boss quitting a job transferring to another department or even complaining are always options but managing up is the most successful way that you can advance your career within
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the organization that you're in if you'd like some help on how to manage your difficult boss please feel free to contact me Norma Brecker at my career dot-com you can also find me on facebook or call me at 2:01 nine eight six one seven one six although you're being treated on early and judged and possibly even career stifled you have to remember that your bosses perception does become your reality and you were in the job of being
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a good performer but also managing your boss good luck and if you have any questions don't hesitate to call me

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